Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Did Someone Film Me?

Did someone film me getting upset? Will I be youtube's newest star? I will have to sue and get it taken down. I have bought 120 dollars of food at the Mexican market and Aldis. My husband takes me to two places looking for a deal on his soda pop.  The first place has no deal, he leaves, wanting a better one, something I did not agree with. The second one, he waits half an hour in line and walks out saying the line took too long and leaving his things on the counter unpurchased.  I'm at the third pop related place waiting. I am annoyed beyond belief by then. Every one's partner has their quirks.

 I argue wanting to take our groceries home for a few seconds and then shut my mouth, and he goes in the store. Being a control freak wife, only backfires, I resign myself but I am upset.  He is due home to work on an internet project too that starts at a specific time. Next time I will make sure the stupid soda pop is bought first.  I fear the frozen and refrigerator food going off. For some reason my northern state is as hot as August in the beginning of November. I wonder if we will even have a winter this year but I digress.

 He takes a long time in this store too, I wait, and then talk to myself, it's semi-Aspie meltdown time. Full ones are when you cry. I'm not crying. I'm too tired to get my walker out of the trunk and go in the store and hide in the bathroom. I talk to myself and punch the plastic part of the car door, it is only ajar, and cuss. "%*^*+(^%% what is taking him so long? I hate his stupid pop and hope the blankety blank company goes out of business. and yell "Come on". This was a pretty food insecure month. I look up and notice this woman is sitting in her car, catty corner, has her phone out, with the stupid apple on it and it's pointed in my direction. "Oh holy crap!" I think and I immediately shut up. One thought is that I am in a decent dress and not too bagged out today.  Legally I know I am in my rights to yell in my own car since I have not yelled at anyone or threatened anyone. I am not yelling at loud decibels either and realize how much could she hear within a closed car?  Even punching the door was not hard enough to leave a bruise. I did open the door a few inches due to the heat but never got out. I was not screaming loud enough for anyone to send help or police. My interjections were here and there.

What do I do?  I know going up to her  to tell her to stop filming me will cause me more trouble. No one else noticed or saw me, people were walking in different areas and I was on the edge of the parking lot more. So I stay silent and get out my digital camera in my purse and start filming her filming me. It does not dissuade her which scares me even more. I only get a few seconds of video. She is staring right at me with her phone right below.  The quality is crappy because my best camera needs new batteries and this is my older one. I don't own a smart phone. I got out later to check on the food we had purchased.

My husband says even if they put it up, somewhere legally I can do a cease and desist. I wish my temper wasn't so bad. But one reason I vent to myself was to keep from getting in a yelling match which my husband which I did manage to avoid. Be careful of narcissists with cameras.

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  1. That lady is creepy or a female Peeping Tom.What she did was illegal. She could not film you without your permission, regardless if what you and your husband did. Hope you will contact police department on her tomorrow. Please try to find her license plates as soon as possible and report her car. Some narcs hire a private investigator. I think because you got rid on your narc friends. Hope you could move to a different apartment or city as soon as you can because there might be a private investigator. I'm glad I am 3,000 miles away from my malignant narc. I will pray for your and your husband tonight.

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    1. I think she is creepy too. Usually the first thing to ask, is "Are you all right?" or to stay out of it. I was venting to prevent an argument. Sometimes I wish I lived among Italians or the Irish, at least some exposed emotions wouldn't freak them out like it seems do here. don't want to stereotype anyone but there are cultures where more emotional displays are allowed] Come to think of it, Ive never even heard one person shout at another in this town, isn't that weird? The culture here is so reticient. My old town people would argue once in a while. I didn't think anyone was watching me, everyone else was walking too far away, so I erred in that. It is creepy she wanted to film. What gets me is she kept doing it even AFTER I just sat there. LOL I had a musings about PIs before, but never have seen this woman before. I have a detailed oriented enough mind, I even notice if I have seen the same cars over and over if I am paying attention;. There was one guy driving this black and white Scooby Doo hippie van, I saw something like 4 times on day when we were in town. I thought the van was interesting but figured he was a tourist. Yeah you are fortunate to be 3,000 miles away, I will soon be 1600 away or so after the spider moves to her winter web.

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    2. Yeah there is the possibility I jumped to conclusions and she was just an idiot playing with her phone. I tested things getting MY camera out though.

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    3. I would assume a private investigator would be skilled enough not to get noticed, and wouldn't act in such an obvious manner; so it doesn't seem likely to me that this person is one. (On the other hand, I may be mistaken about the level of competence in this line of business. :->)

      If she was indeed filming you and not doing something else, I'd say she is probably some normie jerk who was having herself a freak show. What is especially appalling is she continued filming you even after you clearly showed that you noticed her - I mean, what the fuck?! Can't believe the rudeness these days. Happened to me too a few times, such unbelievable rudeness to your face, although in milder form.

      I'm sorry this happened to you, Peep. I hope it doesn't end up anywhere public, and if it does, you can sue and get it taken down. Or next time, if someone wants to see a freak show, you could charge tickets.

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    4. She's a crappy PI if she was one. My family has no reason to hire PI, one relative did on another, but in my case, they know where I live and there is nothing new or exciting to find out. I have contact with my brother too though it is limited. She probably was some normie jerk, I know it is creepy how she sat there and just stared at me, when I noticed her and started filming her in return. WIthout audio, all she has is a woman who is upset who punches car door acouple times, but it still irritates me. I would sue too if I see it anywhere. I will say to people, "You never get mad? Yeah right." She creeps me out. If I see her again, I am staying the hell away. This town does have some creepazoids. There is the one woman who came up to me in a coffee shop and she talked about personal stuff to me and I was struggling too at the time but later she avoided me like the plague. I sat next and said "Hello" and she gave me dirty look and walked away. I am careful now about those who want to use me as the counseling trash can. I had another woman call me up asking for a ride that would have added up to 45 miles, I said, "our car is old and I don't have money to take a trip like that" I haven't even gone to a town I like going to 30 miles away due to lack of gas money in months, and we are putting air in our tire every two days, hopefully to be replaced tomorrow. Some of these people just don't get it. I did tell her Id ask others. I would never dare film someone in public like that, especially if they were not doing anything to me and not even interacting with me. She better be careful of that stuff because I am NOT a physically confrontative person. Someone could have walked up to her grabbed her camera/phone and slammed it on the ground. She could find someone who does not play things the same way I do.

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  2. Dear Peeps, oh didn't ya just wanna take that bayoch's phone and shove it up her ... left nostril. People these days are so rude - and nosey. Typical worldlings, ugh!

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    1. LOL was tempted. It was better to stay in the car so she wouldn't have a more "thrilling" video which is what I did. [outside getting out to check on the frozen food later] They are rude and nosey.

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  3. When we go shopping together its the opposite, its me that takes too long. I have a hard time buying things, then I hear this voice over my head, "let's go". I'm glad he's always quick, even at the hardware store, but its a pain sometimes too. I wish there was an easy formula for that.

    I don't know why she was filming it, perhaps to bug you, that's what people do to me when I'm emotional, they bug me. Narcissists love to torment, that's what they do. They feed on emotions. I think she was targeting you, that's what we get for our showing our feelings. I hope it don't end up on youtube.

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    1. Yes I wish your husband didn't rush you. I know that could be a pain. I am willing to wait usually but three stores for one item is maxing things out. It's weird how two people like us are always short on time and we don't even have 40 hour week jobs, maybe we are just slow or being disabled is like a job, if you go to enough doctors. I found myself even getting up at midnight to do my lung treatment, I had passed out in bed at 10:00pm after doing Flexitouch. Weird how I am always "late" and "behind". It never used to be like this.

      I don't know why she was filming either. Rationally I thought there is no way she could have gotten much sound, two people sitting in enclosed vehicles, her across the way not to the side, my door only cracked open. Maybe I will be spared Youtube. This is a small town too, so I could conceivably run into this person. This is a place where you see the same people over and over again even if you don't know their names. Yes they love to torment, what a freak. I and my husband watched my video of her, that lasts only 6 seconds or so, her face is dark, he said, she wouldn't have gotten that great of a view of her if that is the view I got of her. I had a plastic bag on the dashboard full of papers and the flipper thing down to block out the sun. I don't know how fancy Apples record though. I was creeped out by the dead eyes above the camera. I hope it doesn't end up on youtube either. She was in her 50s or 60s so seems there would be less chance of media saavy.

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  4. I checked the Internet multiple times today since reading your post today. I haven't seen any videos posted yet. I hate being rushed. It is a very controlling behavior and makes me feel nuts! This woman was very mean to film you. Not nice at all!

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    1. I think she was mean too. I did think it out and she would not have got much, no audio, closed car, what can you hear? I had culture shock when I moved here, everyone with a smart phone, my old town, only a few could afford them, but it seems every one of them has a totally tricked out full internet, and photography smart phone. I hate being rushed too. The clock was ticking that day. We are on the edge of lateness all the time, don't ask me how....

      They got a big chunk of this whole town under cameras, it's worse then England, this includes the whole down town tourist area. I can't fart in the library or drop a book without them knowing. They don't even have one of those book things that would buzz going off but have full HD surveillance on you. The cameras seem everywhere.

      There was this one girl drinking in the park I ran into, she was drinking Vodka out of a paper bag or something, I told her, "You do know they got this whole place under cameras, don't you?" She didn't seem worried, maybe she thought her paper bag would suffice. Its illegal to drink in the park.

      Yeah it definitely was mean. I think her video would be boring. I didn't do anything for that long. She didn't even get the fat affect since I remained seated in my car and waist up I only look like a midsized woman. This town is a strange place.

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  5. I do not believe that humanity was ever meant to be on cell phones and other electronic gadgets 24/7. It's not healthy!

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  6. I really don't know what you were worried about. I think you should stop thinking about yourself, 24/7 and as an outcast. Your poverty is mentioned over and over again, but you never say anything positive about how you can improve your situation. It is all about how people have done you wrong, therefore I find it hard to believe people actually read this. There are a lot of people in the world a lot worse of than you. You still can afford food and internet which gives you a place to vent and people to sympathise with you. You accuse everyone in the world of being a narcissist, IF they upset you. If you put the same energy into volunteering and listening to others, am sure you would have more friends than you would know what to do with.

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    1. HI C*********!

      Someone who makes minimum wage at a part time job and lives off the largesse of relatives is going to lecture me on "success" and "poverty"? You always thought you were better then everyone else. It got old. I displayed vulnerability on this article--I'm not as worried anymore about it, which means it was time for a narcissist to run and get their skewer in. See how that works? In fact when I posted it, I got worried, thinking, you are displaying some vulnerability here. Do narcissists listen to others? From my side all they do is criticize. Maybe you can befriend a few other down and outs to knock around for you to feel superior too. What do you care about those people "worse" off then me as you march off to vote for the latest Tea Party candidate? If we compared volunteer resumes, you'd lose and I say that without hesitation. My readers will already see a narcissist in action with your response.

      If this isn't who I think it is, I apologize in advance.

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    2. Hey Mrs. C or whoever you think you are,

      This is Peep's blog! She has rights to post whatever she wants and if you don't like it, please get off your high horse and her page! Don't read her page anymore! Please leave her alone! There are other ACONs who love her page. Yes, we are real! We have horrible malignant, sociopathic, psychopathic narcissistic parents who made our lives a living hell with their endless smear campaign, gaslighting abuses, and stealing other’s love and affection away from us. If you don’t have a clue, then this page is not for you. It is time for you to get off you high horse and get off her blog. Or like what you love to say, get a life and move on!

      All these stuff about volunteering is your BS. You don’t know what Peep has been doing 24/7! It is all on your head. Don’t like Peep? Leave her alone and stop talking about her! Stop stalking her! If you leave her alone, she will leave you alone! Do you have problem with that? It’s time for you to look at yourself! You are obviously the ones who really need help! Please get off your high horse and set up an appointment with a therapist telling them that you have problem with somebody’s blog and with people wanting to improve their lives by writing on blogs about narcs and going NC!

      You also need to change you attitude and get off your flying f--- high horse! Leave Peep alone! You are lowering yourself to a scum by writing such a hateful email to Peep. I know you think you deserve respect, but I have no respect for you, Mrs. C!

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    3. It's the ole peter-pan advice that way too many people (who've not experienced long-term un/der-employment) are full of...yeah, and full of something else ;/ Sometimes,'am astounded at how frakking insensitive people (who barge onto people's blogs - with their own agenda) can be.

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  7. I can tell you that even when she was quite ill this blogger did a lot of volunteer work. This is from my own personal experience with her.

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    1. Yes I did volunteer work for years. Thanks for posting this.

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  8. I just wanted to add that I have known this blogger for years and she has done tons of volunteer work. Eventually people (especially those with significant autoimmune issues) do eventually get tired and have to take care of themselves. People who are blessed with excellent health simply do not get this point.

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    1. I believe this was gaslighting abuse when they told me I did not volunteer enough. It was cruel and abusive, I know who it is, because she would prattle on to me about this stuff even in person. One time I was even making cards for people at the hospital and she started in on me. Nothing was ever good enough. Mrs. Fix-It like it was her business and job to "correct" me and here she continues. It never was a friendship. People do get tired. There are people with absolutely no empathy for serious health problems. Someone like this did not understand pain or fatigue or what serious autoimmune problems really mean. I was reminded of my mother.

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    2. That woman is a B***ch. My parents used to do the same crap to me and still do. Look, I've been in the Army for almost 20 years. When does it become enough? Even when I became seriously ill, the crap continued. What I found quite helpful (at least from my part) was when I started to question my parents as to what THEY planned to do for others because I'm done, retired, kaput, etc. These are oftentimes one-sided relationships where we are expected to meet the needs of the Narcs and nothing is given to us in return--at least nothing positive!

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    3. Sorry your parents do the same crap to you anon. That's horrible. Yes one asks, "When does it become enough?" For some nothing is ever good enough. We will never measure up and it is designed that way as they pontificate on down on us like we are underlings in need of endless correction. Ask them what they plan to do for others instead of just buying more narc supply and adding to their resume of "do-goodery" to abuse others with. It's more easy to have endless "works" when one has good health or money.

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    4. I think that my greatest strength came from my ability to finally say NO! It's okay to do for others. However, we also have a moral and ethical obligation to also take care of ourselves.

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    5. I agree how can you take care of others when you can't even take care of yourself? We have to take care of ourselves first. One of my worse hospital stays happened from pushing myself for volunteer work--nothing anywhere near the hours of a job but enough energy required I did not have it. Volunteer work should be balanced too. It can be a good thing in life but it's like salvation via grace instead of false gospel of works. Are you doing it for the right reasons?

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    6. How much volunteer work did your mother do? I actually prefer doing volunteer work but for different reasons. I enjoyed doing volunteer work because I felt like I had more control.

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    7. None, I know of one day at a soup kitchen but that was when she was dating her present husband. I am glad you like volunteer work. I liked doing it too.

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  9. I know I'm kinda late on this one but that's really bizarre and creepy about the woman with the camera on you like that and in such a cruel, brazen manner, not caring one whit whether or not you saw her doing it. The reason I mention it is because I've been reading up a lot lately on the widespread phenomena called "gang stalking" which seems to be a form of Narc/Psycho abuse on STEROIDS. You should could google "gangstalking" and read some of the horror stories that these people endure. It almost makes the abuse done to us seem like the kindergarten version of Narc abuse. One thing I'm absolutely positive about after reading these stories is that it's mostly spiritual and not organized on a human level. No way some of those weird syncroncities could have been planned by mere mortals. What that woman did to you with her cell phone camera sounds a lot like some of the things done to gang stalking target. Read up on that Peep, if you haven't already. It's very fascinating and very horrible. These narcs are on auto pilot and being controlled by something else, some dark hierarchy in the spiritual realm. No doubt about it.

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    1. Yeah it was so weird. It really put me on edge though I am more calm now. Socially things for me have been beyond tough. The medical professionals are nice but its a class thing, these mostly upper middle class people are so reticent. I have socially withdrawn and never been like this in my life. There is one nice church where the people are friendly and help the poor but I am seen as a "needy person" there not an equal. I've heard the term gangstalking on various websites, but don't know much about it. No one wants to go paranoid, but I think about the narcs and fakes who have entered my life including a major spiritual abuser--not local person, and its scary. Maybe there are spiritual realities with some of this stuff. Yeah I have heard of people with far worse abuses and seen a few stories, but didn't know what to believe because I don't know much about it. Just the way she stared at me was so freaky. I will definitely read up on it.

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