I didn't talk about this before when it happened. You know stirring up trouble with saying something non-politically correct. I had some guy rip my head off for questioning the choose from the list of 50 genders article. That was before I wrote the troll article.
But my family seems to be falling in love with non-traditional lifestyles. I know about other sexual pursuits -non gender or orientation derived that I decided to not go into on the blog in case it's ever discovered. This mostly concerns badly behaved "straights". Let's just say my life as a traditional wife seems to be a rarer one in my family. I'm of the Ozzie and Harriet ilk, well,most of them, they are something else. This over 40 years old cousin I suspect is the fourth gay member of the family.
It's ironic though, when I saw the "coming out" post of the previously married cousin. All these relatives save for one were high fiving him for it. It's strange, because I remember when my mother smeared me for being a lesbian, when I was not a lesbian but fully hetero in my case. I wrote about this a few times. Has society changed this much in 25 years? I suppose it has. The family turned their back on me for supposedly being "gay" and overtly and directly abused me for it. I was mocked for looking butch, not being a real female [effects of PCOS] and told no man would have me,
I don't believe people should be treated like this even if you do not agree with the lifestyle choices so it was strange to watch. How times have changed.
Before I went no contact with the entire lot, I could tell the whole family would be falling apart most likely, almost like my going no contact was a "loose thread" that got pulled. Maybe they woke up looked around and realized they had nothing in common with each other. It is one interesting facet of American society how demographics can be so different now even within one family with everything from religion, socioeconomic levels, politics and sexual orientations. Maybe the sociologists will study that one day. I once asked on an ACON message board if "family" was falling apart in a normative sense even outside of ACONs? Was DNA enough to hold people as having enough in common once you moved away from dependent children and parents?
As the years went by and I got deeper into my no contact, I realized I left people I had absolutely nothing in common with and did not share the same values with whatsoever, and that applies to all of them.
The gung-ho Republican narcissist uncle was very upset at the coming out of the older bisexual cousin. His response on his Facebook declaration, was "So". They already were ready to come to blows over politics, the newly declared bisexual man is a classic liberal and the uncle, almost the stereotype of Republican.
One thing about me, my family hated me for being "too old school". I don't want to say conservative because I am not a Republican and while I am a Christian, I don't fit in the normative evangelical box either. I once had both parents mock me for being 22 years old and a virgin. Some would call me a prude and tell me I was "too uptight".Funny since I wasn't allowed to even date in high school. Narcissist parents are master at double bind messages. I'm no contact now with the cousin out of the closet anyway now. His enabling of narcissism caused that, not the bedroom choices.