tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post5151077518478430834..comments2024-03-24T16:53:02.846-07:00Comments on Five Hundred Pound Peep: My Brother: Trained By The Family SystemFive Hundred Pound Peephttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-84384100283190858572014-09-19T08:49:56.726-07:002014-09-19T08:49:56.726-07:00I just shared your comment with husband Five and h...I just shared your comment with husband Five and he laughed, yes the woman has more than her fair share of it. And after eighteen years of marriage we still wonder what her intent was? We did get married rather quickly, but that was our business and the first baby came 3 years later. I could tell about husbands family too and the MIL from hell, but that would take too much time Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-55513179702867692592014-09-18T20:14:03.963-07:002014-09-18T20:14:03.963-07:00Wow your mother tried to set you up for a date in ...Wow your mother tried to set you up for a date in front of your husband? That takes chutzpah. I think that is beyond the pale too. Your mother sounds just like mine. I think the hanging out with exes is sick. One ex she has kept contact with, is her narc brother's girlfriend he broke up with in the 1980s. It blows my mind. He has been married over 20 years. My mother would never visit me but would hang out with cousins I never even had heard of or met. Facebook was a revelatory journey as my GC was friends with some of these folks, and I never even had met them or heard of them!Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-88268510472957702802014-09-18T07:22:21.340-07:002014-09-18T07:22:21.340-07:00I wish I knew your name so I will just address you...I wish I knew your name so I will just address you as Five. I wanted to chime in about the NM still trying to maintain contact with exes. My mother tried to put a wedge in my marriage within months by telling me in front of my husband that she saw so and so at the market and he asked about you or one of them called here and you should call back. When I asked her did you tell them I was married, she said no. I told her I am not calling anyone, or seeking them out because it gives them the wrong message and that you must tell them that those realtionships ended for a reason. She also maintains ties with second husbands family even though he has passed 20+ years ago, she even took current live in man to meet them, I thought it was just nuts that connection should have diminished over the years and considering they were halfway across the country who would put forth the effort? She has always chased after the wrong people for the wrong reason and shoved aside her family for people who could care less especially when they are on to her.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-3725071780834496492014-09-18T02:30:37.358-07:002014-09-18T02:30:37.358-07:00Yep. They went to the same school.Yep. They went to the same school.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-20317886059121173852014-09-16T17:51:01.608-07:002014-09-16T17:51:01.608-07:00Thanks Joan I appreciate it. I am glad you get alo...Thanks Joan I appreciate it. I am glad you get along somewhat with your brother. I can talk to mine someone. I think mine is backdated about 25 years in seeing who I am. Maybe that can't be helped where the connection grow so distant. Sorry your NM triangulated everyone too. That is sad about that man who knew your sister 15 years ago. I hope he comes around too and really understands why I did it.<br />Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-6695375525769158792014-09-16T15:51:04.584-07:002014-09-16T15:51:04.584-07:00Sorry to hear of your relationship with your broth...Sorry to hear of your relationship with your brother diminishing. I get along with my brother, marginally, but we are still that narcissistic family. We haven't grown in a relationship. I'm still that smelly kid to him. And we talk like he is 18 and I am 12. He tries to talk to mother, but she won't have anything to do with him. Lots of reasons why. But that shouldn't matter.<br /><br />She triangulated my two brothers, she triangulated my oldest brother and my father. She ordered us kids to have nothing to do with dad, or pay the penalties of never seeing her again.<br /><br />She berates my sister over some man that was attracted to my sister over 15 years ago that my mother liked. To this day she berates her over it.<br /><br />I hope your brother comes around and supports your decision to go NC.<br /><br /><br />Joan Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775873193806083833noreply@blogger.com