tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post6883377619220084051..comments2024-03-24T16:53:02.846-07:00Comments on Five Hundred Pound Peep: My Counselors and MeFive Hundred Pound Peephttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-89958473612282243032015-02-19T05:26:24.866-08:002015-02-19T05:26:24.866-08:00Good post. It drives me insane that so many coun...Good post. It drives me insane that so many counselors try to get you to reconcile with your FOO. They don't seem to understand that some people are just plain evil and don't WANT to reconcile with you, no matter how nicely or maturely you approach the subject with them. <br />I have tried doing that, to no avail. I just get ignored or put down for being "needy." When you have no health insurance, it's even harder to find a good counselor who understands, because you're limited to clinics or whatever is available in your community that's free--and that usually means a counselor who isn't highly trained and doesn't specialize in these type of relationships. <br />I am also sick and tired of people telling me (when I've been down on my luck and/or need money or emotional support) to go to my parents. Everyone assumes your parents will always take you back, will always support you, and always care. People think you're lying or exaggerating when you tell them THEY DON'T CARE. There really isn't any help out there for a poor person with no family to speak of. It really sucks. Blogging is what's kept me sane. -- Lucky OtterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-8409460401055394052015-02-17T15:07:13.310-08:002015-02-17T15:07:13.310-08:00Oh I am worried about it too. A bad counselor who ...Oh I am worried about it too. A bad counselor who sees every relationship as "fixable" would be bad news to me right now. I need someone who understands Aspergers too. I can't afford the Aspie specialist at 65 copays per session. I also hope of one who can think beyond middle class and fat biases too. That may be a bit of a tall order LOL. I have had a couple good ones before. <br /><br />I fear too narcissism is such a virtue that nothing will be done and there will be no improvements. LOL about self esteem courses. I need a bit more then the proverbial light slap on the back. <br /><br />I know they can't solve every problem but just need some support right now over the NC and losing family to a narc thing. Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-71443444418433167542015-02-17T06:02:25.441-08:002015-02-17T06:02:25.441-08:00I think once society stops treating narcissism as ...I think once society stops treating narcissism as a virtue it will be recognized. In counselling, I would be afraid of the counsellor telling me all this stuff I've been learning online from other abuse survivors is wrong. <br /><br />I think the greatest challenge would be having them believe me. Or that they might believe me but deny it's impact on my life. They might think all can be well if I just do the program that the gov't specifies, and not even recognize what has this got to do with my formative years.<br /><br />They might think I am just like everyone else, even those from a loving family, that all I need is a self-esteem course. And I did that, and all of it was way over my head. They won't come down and be present with me and my needs, but look at me in frustration. <br /><br />I'm not trying to persuade you not to attend counselling, as I don't know how much the world has changed from when I went. I hope it works out well. Joan Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775873193806083833noreply@blogger.com