tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post2835749866674799169..comments2024-03-24T16:53:02.846-07:00Comments on Five Hundred Pound Peep: Going No Contact with A Rejecting Family is Kind of RedundantFive Hundred Pound Peephttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-1607280472313791922015-04-26T15:42:31.832-07:002015-04-26T15:42:31.832-07:00Thanks PR, welcome to the blog. I am sorry you had...Thanks PR, welcome to the blog. I am sorry you had to go no contact too and had been smeared as well. Yeah I was not allowed to tell anyone anything that didn't get passed on. It operated like the Stasti with spys and "reporters" while of course I was left in the dark. It was weird to find out a great-aunt died via the internet by accident. Yes they will get others to reject you and publically humiliate you. Ugh about doing well in life and then going back to them. I had the thought Oh if I lose weight or get rich-Lotto being my only chance, maybe they would embrace me but I thought oh my goodness no way. If someone treats you like dirt when down and out, nothing changes if our circumstances got better except they'd be just trying to make use of it. Yeah my nieces and nephews kept me in the game 15 more years then I would have been. I have to admit I am extraordinarily disappointed they all turned out to be the most obedient children on the planet. They will follow in their parents footsteps and were already being turned against me. Maybe one who wrote me a little bit will come find me. If she sees this blog one day, I would like to see her again but sadly I know they have already fed her poison to smear me to her. My sister would wrinkle her face and nose just from walking into my apt with my niece and nephews to convey the instant message I was a "lesser". I am glad I was able to have you feel less alone. I know this is very hard. I'm praying for you too.Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-46461269203138540892015-04-25T14:55:52.924-07:002015-04-25T14:55:52.924-07:00Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can re...Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can relate to so much of what you said. I have been no contact with my entire family off and on for about 10 years now. I understand the feeling of smear campaigns happening especially when you are living far away. It happened to me, too. I didn't realize it until I went to an Easter celebrate about 4 years ago and realized that everything I had told my Mom in confidence she had spread to the entire family. Her sisters ridiculed and humiliated me publicly. It was terrible. Since then I've been trying to work through all the shame I feel just for being who I am. It is really tough. People have told me the same thing that you've been told and that's "if you do well in life maybe someday you can talk again" but I reject that idea. Love should be unconditional. I also stuck around for my niece and nephews but it's finally to the point where I trust none of them so I can't even put myself through that on the mere, very slight chance that I will get to see them. Again, thank you so much for sharing your story. It reassures me that I'm not alone even when I feel like it much of the time. You deserve much better than the way you have been treated. Sending you good thoughts through your healing process. <br />PiscesRisinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00874550983533158219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-63897296663730421172015-02-12T08:26:53.935-08:002015-02-12T08:26:53.935-08:00I'm so sorry to hear you've been through s...I'm so sorry to hear you've been through so much with your family. I hope their guilt trips never get to you. You deserve better! Kind regards, ClintAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-57839193596388162272014-01-17T04:29:52.697-08:002014-01-17T04:29:52.697-08:00In June last year I opened facebook and found that...In June last year I opened facebook and found that a video had been posted of my sister giving a speech at a large formal lunch in honour of my parent's golden wedding anniversary. We had not been told about this event or invited. It has absolutely devastated me that my family would do this tp me and my kids. We have cut off all ties with them and I do not expect to ever see them again. But it has hurt me so badly. I can't even begin to understand how my sister and uncle who seem to have largely organised this could do it. Never in a million years could I have done this to anyone. I am not sleeping, am in tears every day, and I started self harming which was very strange - apparently can be part of grieving. I think what has hurt the most is having to tell my kids that half their family doesn't want anything to do with our family and having them see how severely it has all affected me. Not quite your situation, but I can understand a little about your strength in taking the steps you have. Best wishes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-17109542701626476502013-08-27T16:46:02.611-07:002013-08-27T16:46:02.611-07:00Thanks so much anon. God bless you. I hope I could...Thanks so much anon. God bless you. I hope I could help others going through the same thing not feel so alone and sorry you have faced it too! :( No it is not easy not at all. Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-39949088335635738372013-08-27T14:15:18.125-07:002013-08-27T14:15:18.125-07:00I know all too well what you have been through and...I know all too well what you have been through and I wish you the best of everything in life! I, too, went no contact with my family of origin about year now and it hasn't been easy but it's really what you have to do. I'm always moved to tears by articles like this. Stay strong & be well! And, thank you so much for writing this & sharing because I and everyone else who reads this knows that they are not alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-15192096954479743142013-07-07T06:11:59.194-07:002013-07-07T06:11:59.194-07:00I found this article it is a good one.
http://nar...I found this article it is a good one.<br /><br />http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/2009/01/no-contact-because-their-evil-is.htmlFive Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-56190585267724076292013-07-03T03:31:33.568-07:002013-07-03T03:31:33.568-07:00Hi Anon.
So sorry you had such a horrible stepfat...Hi Anon.<br /><br />So sorry you had such a horrible stepfather. That is terrible. Totaly understand why you would flee when you were 18. When I left at 21, it was kind of a fleeing situation, I waited til one parent was not home on purpose so I couldn't be stopped. I remember looking for housing in secret and having to do the move under incredible duress.<br /><br /> That is sad he told you submit or never see your siblings again. Mine made threats too as I left. I never should have gone back later but I know in my case dealing with severe illness and poverty was part of that desperation so I will forgive myself. I was just trying to survive the best I could. I am glad in your case you did NOT return. Yes they will make threats and will control others so they have nothing to do with you. In my case, my mother controls the family completely and managed to turn the entire family system against me. She taught others merely to "tolerate" me at best and to insult me at worse. <br /><br />I walked away finally knowing the only way was to break contact. That's right the only healthy thing to do is walk away. Some families are not really families at all, there is no love there. If the top person hates you and the whole system revolves around her, there is no recourse. I am sorry you went through the same thing too. I will pray for you. Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-14300116048047549262013-07-02T20:27:48.901-07:002013-07-02T20:27:48.901-07:00Peep, thank you for sharing your story.
I unders...Peep, thank you for sharing your story. <br /><br />I understand to some extent how you feel. My Shriner stepfather handed me over to his Shriner buddies, so my life as a child and teen was definitely abusive.<br /><br />I finally left home in the middle of the night shortly after turning 18. My step-father told me that I'd never see my siblings again if I did not return, so I had a decision to make. Stay and be abused or submit to the abuse and stay in the family. What kind of choice was that anyway? <br /><br />I did not return and he made good on his promise to cut me out of the family. Sometimes you have to go "no contact" if the abuse is such that there is no way to live a healthy life if you did stay in contact. Everybody wants a family but when family does not not function like family, and is run by someone who hates, you, what else can you do? When the person who controls the family is determined to be your enemy, you have to break contact. It is the only way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-14050357597574538422013-07-02T20:02:51.560-07:002013-07-02T20:02:51.560-07:00Hi I checked out your friends article, Therese, it...Hi I checked out your friends article, Therese, it was good, a lot of the same principles apply, "there just not that into you", that definitely nails it. It does hurt, you are right about that. I sent the letters here too, the phone calls etc. While I wasn't totally ignored, and helped a few times--probably sadly to keep me off their doorsteps, I was pushed away over and over. There is a point you just have to walk. I am glad you had the supportive friend who gave you good advice. This is something I've struggled with, how to deal with rejection but self-love means not seeking after those who "just aren't that into us. Strength to you too. :)Five Hundred Pound Peephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05862707335431442713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-650289478442133391.post-7628709532754083292013-07-02T17:19:02.632-07:002013-07-02T17:19:02.632-07:00Darling girl. I wrote a post on this today, althou...Darling girl. I wrote a post on this today, although I said "friends" not family, abiding a pre-established aggreement not to ever mention I HAD family. I am so sorry this happened to you because I know how horrible it feels. I'm not feeling very eloquent right now, so I'm going to read some of your other posts and try to get to know you better. Strength to you. Theresehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12548448958613700678noreply@blogger.com