Friday, May 29, 2015
"I am Narcissist"
Smakintosh showed the horrible attitudes of narcissists well in this video. Many of our world leaders and politicians like both Bush's and Clinton on both sides of the aisle are indeed narcissists and sociopaths. Dr. Phil defended and identified with so many abusers on his show, it made me wonder what he was! One scary thing about mental health organizations is many narcissists are attracted into those areas. Why? Power. Psychotherapy tells us to reconcile often with our abusers. The one with the will says it all. What else do you think makes siblings [the spiritual prostitutes] fall before narcissistic mother and fathers on their knees and simper while throwing others away? The ones who appear nice and kind are the scary ones too, a false picture, as they seem to be loving and giving. Yes our politicians gaslight us, as they start more wars and send the jobs overseas. The homes as museums must be rife among narcissists who want to look perfect!
Thank you Smakintosh and you, Peep, for posting this! Stirs up the anxiety a bit, eh? Peep, we've discussed the big picture Ns before, but the topics are as endless as the "players" and the systems they infect, pollute, manipulate, destroy. Important to keep an eye on "them" so we can protect ourselves somewhat, the best we're able, from the next moves we know they'll make. (This is tough though; they have a pretty good squeeze on us already, but I'd rather know than be oblivious, I guess.) Thanks again for posting this, Peep. Smakintosh's message came through loud and clear. -- Lora
ReplyDeleteYes the big picture Ns are running this place into the ground, using the same techniques as our narc parents did with threats, gaslighting, out and out lies and lackeys they reward to do their evil bidding. I agree about protecting ourselves.
DeleteI like what he did to the mouths, hehe.
ReplyDeleteThis was very informative, thank you. Btw, Dr. Phil always gave me the creeps. Its in his eyes.
LOL I like the mouths too. Funny stuff. Dr Phil is creepy, he is a strange one.
DeleteAmazing video. It really gives you a look into the mind of a narcissist. I could see some of my own mother and brother, and a once therapist, among those slides.
ReplyDeleteI am sure they do think some of those actual thoughts. I thought of several people.
DeleteAs time goes by and I read more about a parents estate being money they earned and could thus dispose of it how they see fit I get hyper aware that disinherited off spring have a greedy tinge to their affect. But in my case we kept our farm despite my mothers actions and not because of them. While we were gutting our fiances to pay for her lawyers she repaid us by not buying us clothes, dental, or health care. And she still disinherited my sister and my self for reasons only she can tell you about. And the end result was a shift of assets straight from our pockets into my ex wives, the most shiftless person I know after my mother. And I have known some shiftless people. This comment was inspired by the old bat about half way through with the black eyes and cruel sneer.
ReplyDeleteI felt a great deal of pain after reading your comment here. So horrible are these creatures to do this to us after not even raising us properly. I see my mothers eyes clearly these days, and then I see how horribly they wanted to murder us. I see in my own words how I use the words horrible and horrendous so much in my speech that a counsellor had to take me aside from the group session, as I was just plain torture to be around. With these words he described me as having PTSD. I have to work hard at taking these words out of my speech when I go to church even. It is a habit of mine to use such deplorable language.
DeleteBut when I read about your family Q, I get where the words come from.
Too many narcs can abuse via wills. I wish the USA had moral obligation laws in their wills like Canada. Did you contest at the time Q? I never asked if you had.
DeleteMy MN mother and enabling dad sent me to a psychologist when I was 16 because of my "unstable mental health." They dropped me off in her office and left and went out to eat or something. The psychologist asked me a lot of questions but didn't say much. After about an hour my parents came back to hear about what a "horrible mentally unstable" daughter I must be. Instead, (and unbeknownst to me until later) the therapist asked me to step outside while she told my parents that I was not the one with the problem: THEY WERE. The only reason I found out what the therapist said was because my MN mother, in one of her famous fits of rage, accused me of "sweet talking" the therapist with my big green eyes and getting her to believe my side of the story. I don't even remember what I said to lady except that I told her the truth as I knew it from a 16 year old girl's perspective, and I do remember thinking that this therapist wouldn't believe me anyway and thinking she would automatically side with my parents. I was wrong about her and I will never forget her. She was WAY ahead of her time! People didn't know about narcs back then except for a few like M. Scott Peck (People of the Lie). I've always been a truth teller. They really hate that.
ReplyDeleteTruth tellers are not very well loved in this society. I think that is a role often scapegoats end up in. I am glad that therapist told you that your parents were the problem. She probably helped your esteem greatly at that time. Where you ever allowed to go back? I bet you weren't but I am sure she was a good influence. the book People of the Lie saved me probably, I read it knowing I was reading about my parents though I wouldn't understand narcissism for many many years.
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Praise God for that wise therapist.
No they never mentioned it again or tried to send me to anyone else, but many years later my Dad ended up at a psychiatrists office and put on Prozac and other drugs because of his "mental problems and depression." Everyone who lives in close proximity to a MN either has mental problems, anxiety, depression, substance abuse (a normal reaction to narc abuse) or they become a rabid follower of the Narc under their complete control. Even though my Dad was an enabler to the MN witch who bore me, he never became a narc, he was just a coward trying to preserve the peace and also to save his own hide at my expense. I did forgive him though and the Lord knows it. My heart was broken into a million pieces when my flying monkey brother texted my husand and said "Daddy is dead if anybody up there cares". There was little girl still trapped inside my heart who hoped to some day have a relationship with her Daddy. I don't know if I can ever forgive my
ReplyDeletebad seed egg donor and God hasn't yet made it clear to me that it is necessary. The Bible only requires us to forgive humans.
Sorry you never got to see the good therapists again. I am not surprised your father got depressed. Yes anyone in close proximity to a NM becomes just like them or becomes depressed, anxious or turns to alcohol and drugs. I saw this myself in my own family. Sadly many choose to become like the narcs and shut down all feelings like my sister. I am glad your father did not become a narc but sadly the cowards enable them and hurt us too. I am glad you could forgive him, and sorry for your loss. I wonder what kind of father I could have had without my NM around to increase the wickedness. He was in thrall to her, and I wonder if he was someone else when young. That was cold of your brother. I don't think forgiveness is always mandated for the seared [Luke 17:3 Ministries--http://www.luke173ministries.org/466805
DeleteSorry you never got to see the good therapists again. I am not surprised your father got depressed. Yes anyone in close proximity to a NM becomes just like them or becomes depressed, anxious or turns to alcohol and drugs. I saw this myself in my own family. Sadly many choose to become like the narcs and shut down all feelings like my sister. I am glad your father did not become a narc but sadly the cowards enable them and hurt us too. I am glad you could forgive him, and sorry for your loss. I wonder what kind of father I could have had without my NM around to increase the wickedness. He was in thrall to her, and I wonder if he was someone else when young. That was cold of your brother. I don't think forgiveness is always mandated for the seared [Luke 17:3 Ministries--http://www.luke173ministries.org/466805
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