Many narcs will act like it's just a little spat and you, you 'bad scapegoat" will come back around once you get "lonely" or realize the error of your ways. Narcissists will never apologize. A few will fake apologies but most won't. They will do "forgive and forget" and expect you to come crawling back to your place in line. Don't think mine doesn't have the snotty attitude that losing my whole family including my nieces and nephews will make me crawl back to kiss her feet. As I wrote recently THEY LEFT ME FIRST. Of course the above too could apply to narcissists who practice silent treatments. This is not the same as a person making the wise choice for no contact. I don't want any narcissists weaseling their way back in. I'm done with that.
No, no, no! I'm not coming back to my narcs! It was not one or two little spats. It was many years of abuses that got me there. Too many years of emotional and gaslighting abuses, too many years of intimidation and threats, too many years of unwarranted criticism, too many years of mocking me for having feelings and wanting love from others, and for many years of wanting me to befriend my enemies who ended up rejecting my friend requests in Facebook. I hate narcs who saw me as their charity case, as being superior toward me, and for telling people that I was beneath them. I had to get rid of them and there will be no turning back. Buh bye narcs!
ReplyDeleteI agree it was years of abuse that got me there too, not just one or two "misunderstandings. Way too much being put down, and treated like dirt. Too much of me begging for crumbs on my end. I am glad I walked from those who treated me like their charity projects too and some who got off on befriending someone they considered an underling they could look good next to. Yeah so sick of people who treated me like I was beneath them as they got handed everything. Good riddance narcs.
DeleteYeah, the narcs can take their agendas and shove them where the sun doesn't shine. i know what the Bible says about forgiveness and praying for the narcs. And i also know that the Lord doesn't want his people to be hanging around the wicked, because narcs corrupt. Yep, sometimes it's best to just let bygones be bygones, and just walk away for good.
ReplyDeleteI agree sometimes that's all you can do just walk away especially after decades of trying. I agree about their agendas. I think God may direct us that praying for some seared is a waste of time.
DeleteThey think they are meting out punishment by denying us the grace of their company. I got news for the Narcs. We don't miss you and you "cutting" us out of your life was the biggest favor you could bestow on us. While you're at it, bestow on us the gift of your death. So we don't have to worry about where you will rear your ugly face next.
ReplyDeleteYes they see that as punishment. I said once to mine, in one of those last emails, you never would come visit me, and ignored me like hell except to keep tabs on me but now you want me around?
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