Tuesday, March 28, 2017
Evicted Man
This man got evicted from my apartment building and they threw all his stuff on the sidewalk.
He lived here at least 15 years. Imagine paying rent that long and then he got sick and no longer could work. I don't know the ins and outs of why he didn't get disability. I just knew his first name.
They evicted him on Friday afternoon. During the weekend, I contacted this one man I know who knows every social agency in town and asked him if there was anyone who could come and rescue his stuff. I said, "Are there any agencies that will store his stuff for him before it is all lost?" He told me no.
The evicted man's entire apartment's contents ended up outside. It was raining Saturday and the first haul out got soaked. More was taken out on a drier Monday to be thrown away. I called one place and got an answering machine.He disappeared, and abandoned all his stuff even his bike which was shocking.
Because of my past and present poverty all this was very triggering for me.
We go outside, and they are literally using one of those small tractors to offload all his stuff into a giant dumpster that has been rented and set up. It is one of those ones you can't see into it is so tall. One neighbor says to me, "They have thrown away thousands of books, he had an entire wall of books in here.". I hate seeing books thrown away and I see some more boxes out. The building manager is standing there. People have started collecting his furniture, I ask "Can we take some books?" She says "Sure". I am polite and friendly but inside I am thinking, "Why wasn't there any mercy for this man?" Maybe her hands were tied, the apartment complex is corporate owned.
I worry about being a vulture, but they are already throwing everything away with the tractor into the dumpster to be hauled away. I figure it is too late and he has lost everything. The books are really good ones, intellectual ones with atlases, and on history and military history. I don't even want to think about what they have already thrown away.
We think my walker got stolen by one of the trash pickers, even right out of our car or my husband simple did not put it in the car even though I told him directly. I forgot to "check" and was tired. He is overwhelmed all the time. I was USING the walker while out there whatever sociopath stole my walker, had to know it was with me. I was in front of everyone. I was using it.
Of course I have weird thoughts, "Maybe it was wrong to grab the books and that's why you lost your walker" but my husband said, "Look they were throwing everything into the dumpster and hauling most of it away that day, you weren't doing anything wrong, it was already lost" We only took a small percentage of the books that were thrown away. My husband got some records. It was shocking to see them cleaning out usable and good stuff, furniture clothes, shelves, kitchen goods, and tossing it all in the trash. That one shocked me. The area was divided and the people there knew the walker was with me.
The poor man is homeless and has lost all his stuff. I feel dumb crying over a walker when I have ANOTHER ONE as a backup when this man lost everything but the whole situation triggered me. I said to my husband, "I didn't realize they just cleaned out your apartment and threw away everything even good stuff. He said, "Maybe you just didn't want to know."
I live in fear of homelessness too. We never have faced eviction and have paid rent on time for 20 years but there is always that fear inside. Disability at least is far more dependable then job income. Yes it is sad to write that, but it is true. In my case, would they throw out all my art work and medical equipment? He owned no car either to at least rescue the most important of his stuff. I remember asking "How come this man had no friends to help him out?" There are a lot of lonely people out there, my number of friends here are low and they would be too old or disabled to move tons of boxes. One friend of mine said, "Where was his family?" I pointed out I really have no family now and am not close enough to the cousins to be rescued by them. People end up without families all the time.
I think there are some major holes in our agencies. This is one. The fact that just getting evicted means you lose all your stuff is unforgiveable, but that is really how it works now. No money, no paid rent and you lose everything unless you got cash handy for a storage unit and the ability to move everything into it. That is harder for the old and those with health problems unable to move boxes and heavy items. One day this man may stop being homeless and some agency will have to provide new furniture and things for him unless he gets a job that can pay for those things. For very poor people replacing things is nearly impossible. It was sad to watch all this.
Its tough to get on disability, even for me, just getting a disability tax credit, I'm almost ready to give up. But I have this one agency helping me and they have done all the work, so I can't just stop now. So I can see how some people might just give up.
ReplyDeleteIn Canada, people can contact the National Benefit Authority, they are a bunch of accountants, I know I hate money people too, but they are kind to me, and I have talked to them in my most panicked states, and they have been kind, never impatient, and they actually work for me. Not the government, have a high success rate, and all we need to do is be patient. And they only collect their pay when and if you win your case.
It takes such perseverance. I don't know this man's situation, perhaps he has given up. If he had family, that would be a very good thing. How come our society seems to exhort "independence". There is no such thing as independence. We used to live in tribes, for heaven's sake.
Disability is tough to get, I am not sure if anyone is getting it anymore from what I see. It is scary. In the 1990s things were different yeah those accountants sound scary but glad they are polite. I am glad they are nice to you. When I talk to Medicare on the phone, they sound nice, some government employees are okay. I hope he has not given up and someone will help him. I hate the whole "independence" thing like having enough "independence" inside will bring out the money you need to be independent. It sounds like the lies they tell us about "choices".
DeleteI heard that if someone goes totally blind they are automatically given disability when they first apply. But that is about it.
DeleteIt was very kind of you to try to help him - you don't even know him really and you were trying to protect him. You are a good person. And collecting his things is NOT being a vulture. When people are essentially destroying things that have value, if you gather them up, you are saving them. I know an antiques seller who regularly dumpster dives and she rescues all kinds of wonderful items, things that are beautiful and also have historic value. If you sell them, all the better because then they go to exactly the people who have been looking for them. Consider what you get a finder's fee. I have very strong feelings about it actually. Too many wonderful things are simply tossed and in this case, it was a man's whole life. Do you think maybe he passed away? I wonder why he wasn't there? I'd almost hope that's why he wasn't there since otherwise it's so tragic. I agree about how hard it is to get government benefits even when you meet the criteria. When my elderly aunt was sick and in a nursing home, I was the person doing all her administrative work and it was like a full time job at times. Having to go talk to this person and that person and calling all around and filling out paperwork and showing proof of one thing and another. I have no idea how it would have worked for someone without a relative who had enough time to spare. I'm sorry you lost your walker. I don't believe in karmic payback or karma at all or anything like that. It's just easy for people who like to take things to do so in that kind of confusion. Not everyone who shows up at that kind of situation is an ethical person. But it doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your kind words, anon. Yes you are right, they were trashing and destroying good things, at least save them for the sake of no waste. I really could only grab very little but some others got his furniture. I did find out he is alive from neighbors and a friend did help him into a hotel. I told the neighbor I got a picture of his parents that was left behind. I thought this may have sentimental value. They told me he was able to grab some clothing and essentials, maybe he got his photo albums, because I didn't see any others.
DeleteYes antiques dealers will rescue historical and other good things. I rescued some very good books, sadly I could not rescue them all.
I think there is a lot of waste in throwing away good books, and other things and antiques, at least some will make use of his furniture. I'd rather my things go to people like my art and other stuff then rotting in a dumpster so you are right.
One neighbors lady saw me crying outside over the walker and thought I got evicted too--there was two different piles of this man's apartment. I told her I am safe for now, but she was relieved. My husband was trying to usher me inside, when I was crying, knowing that neighbors may wonder what was up. I am glad his friend helped him.
The whole thing is tragic. It made me very sad and upset. I wish I had been able to help more.
It is true so many can fall through the cracks. I know he was too young for elderly social security, he could not physically do his old work, but he can breathe and walk, and they would tell him to get a "sit-down" job like my husband was told when he got denied. [Breathing and walking are the two biggest things they look at for disability, I guess it makes sense but a lot of too sick people fall through the cracks]
Paper work for being disabled or needing help is IMMENSE, I am not in nursing home but understand what you went through with your aunt. Just the other day I spent hours getting the taxes ready. People think disabled people are lazy and sleeping away, just self care, paperwork, etc can fill your day. I come on here and type a little bit while in bed. People who help the bedbound or someone in institutional care that can literally be hours of paperwork, phone calls and direct care. My husband has a lot to do because of me too.
Yeah without an advocate he may have had worse trouble and many people who have never needed the social services system don't know how it works. I've been in it for years and learned a few things so someone NEW to it all, it's a confusing maze and it still trips me up.
Thanks for saying I didn't do anything wrong.
There is only one way in which one can endure man's inhumanity to man and that is to try, in one's own life, to exemplify man's humanity to man.
ReplyDeleteAlan Paton
good quote thanks Q :)
DeletePeople say there but by the grace of god go I but they are just paying lip service to a thought. If they really believed it they would roll up their sleeves and do something. At least your concern is spoken from your heart and with the conviction from some one who would do more if they could do more. But most really can't be bothered but for to drive by and giggle at his plight.
ReplyDeleteI agree, they would roll up their sleeves and do something. Thanks Q. I agree about the gigglers. :(
DeleteHi Peep, this is a very sad harsh story being that also lived in the apt. for 15 years...You were trying to help him by inquiring for agencies that might be able to assist him. At least some of his books found an appreciated home with you. God bless this man, I hope he is doing ok. In addition, the least this apt. complex could do is donate what he couldn't take to charity. What's the point of the dumpster, destructive & hurtful?
DeleteYes I am glad his books are not rotting in the trash. He had some cartoon books I appreciate even like bloom county ones. I wish there was more agencies and help out there. This town has more charity then my old one when it comes to feeding people and other things but there are still some major holes. I hope he is doing okay too. Some neighbors discussed our shock and dismay at what happened to him. I agree why didn't anyone call Goodwill? It's so strange. It is like laying on the punishment 10 fold. This is small town too not like a place like Chicago where they have multiple evictions and could not keep up with dispersing the goods.
DeleteI know someone who underwent a similar experience. He was not physically disabled but psychiatrically. He was unable to work, care for himself, his animals, his home or his possessions. Help was all around him, but it took a court ordered eviction to get him the help he needed but had previously refused. Yes, he lost most of his possessions, and he went to a shelter. From there he went to an independent living facility. The last time I saw him, he was clean, well-fed and conversant. No one wanted to dismantle his life, but it was a cage he had made for himself. I hope that your neighbor can get the help he needs too. I'm sorry it increases your fear and uncertainty though.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure how much this man tried to help himself or not. He could have tried everything or was too ill or depressed to help him self, or get a storage unit. Sometimes in extreme poverty moments, it is traumatic enough people have freeze like deers in the headlights and they ignore what is happening. I have never been evicted but when you see my old posts talking about moving to Chicago in the 90s that was to avoid homelessness in the long run. I am glad that man got help. Yes sometimes people physically and otherwise derioriate where they need help but I find myself asking why couldn't his stuff be saved and why isn't there help to do such a thing? It's like people are ignored and neglected to the very minute everything collapses and something is wrong with that. :(
DeleteVery sad indeed. It's even sadder that no one seemed to know him or about him. I live in a small town. I couldn't die in peaceful anonymity if I wanted to. There is something to be said for that (often unwanted) attention.
ReplyDeleteIn the case that I mentioned above, when he was finally forced out, the community helped him to salvage some of his things. Homelessness should not exist. Period.
People of low status can be invisible in small towns. We have a little bit of visibility but it is more via charities we have connection to and husband's name appearing under newspaper articles. We have a lot of acquaintances. I think one or two people would notice if we died, but maybe not that many. Some people though they can live in even more extreme obscurity. I heard about this one man in my old town, that I was acquaintances with, literally "starving" to death. They didn't have much charity there, but I doubt he knew how to find it to begin with. He kind of died unnoticed. I even said to the person who told me, "Why didn't anyone help feed him, I would have given him food! " I wonder if he had mental illness problems. Poverty can make people disappear and go inward. I breach a lot of taboos even admitting I am so poor on this blog though there's levels of poverty in America under me. I am glad the community helped to salvage his things. If I had some money while this happened, I may have rented him a storage unit, but we were down to 10 dollars that time of the month having paid the bills. Husband just paid insurance before it was cancelled. Physically we didn't have the strength to move his things anyway but I thought of WHAT COULD BE DONE. I agree homelessness should not exist. Disability is harder to get, this man may have been turned down. It seems they are turning everyone down.
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