Telling People to Forgive is Gaslighting in Disguise.
I don't believe in forgiveness as taught in major religions, from Christianity to the New Age movement It often is an enabling of evil where the abused and victims are the ones told to stand down while excuses are made for unrepentant evil doers.
It's another way for people to be told to submit and has a lot to do with status quo and the support of domination in human society where all the onus is on the oppressed to bow and lick the boots of their abusers.
When I stopped letting others tell me what to feel more healing came. When I was allowed myself to feel my emotions, life became more balanced. Forgiving sociopaths/malignant narcissists and other toxics, is the soonest way to get re-offended against. Squashing your own emotions does not lead to healing.
So many people are tired of being told to ignore and repress all my feelings in religion and other places. Time and no contact will heal, but fantasies about forgiving people of no conscience, all you do is open yourself up to nonsense.
Dear Peeps, and too many preachers choose to remain totally mum on what forgiveness is not - guess these guys aren't studying the Word as much as they're saying they are. Being no Bible scholar, by a long shot, even i have noticed, Scripture after Scripture, warning people to maintain a distance from nasty people.
ReplyDelete"A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again." Proverbs 19:19
Funny, you don't hear that one preached either.
I don't know...the bible had some stuff about reprobates but may Yahweh gives off a bad example, killing anyone he doesn't like and sending them to hell too. That's a top down failure in my opinion.
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