My Big Fat Fabulous Life is back for another season. Sadly it looks like they are having her do another "fake relationship" that will end up in misery. Doesn't she date in real life at all? I hate that she can't get a long sustaining real boyfriend or husband. Can you imagine if we got to watch an actual wedding or real relationship? It's a repeat of the "desperate" fat woman who can't get a man trope. I would have more respect for her if she just decided to live a happy life being single. Enjoy having a family that cares about you and so many friends. She takes the friends for granted and gets too jealous of them. She also makes impossible demands of them like when she asked Heather to be a surrogate. Who are actors and actresses and who are "real friends"? Buddy looks checked out and like he wants to run but stays for a paycheck. She is always grabbing at him which is kind of gross.
Whitney also ditches men that seem actually interested like Lenny and goes for unobtainable men like Buddy who is distancing himself more for her lack of boundaries. Dating some "secret" guy in France isn't going to cut it, if she wouldn't move 2 hours in her own state for Chase. Who knows if that relationship was real either? She's not going to do it for some unnamed and unpictured French guy.
She pushes this idea everyone has to be coupled up or they are worthless and I hate that. She pushes old fashioned meat market ideas about thinness and fatness that make life worse for the fat women. Give up the desperation for a man! She's too picky and cast off the ones who would have had her anyway. Any single fat women watching her show aren't going to be empowered but more depressed. I've been married over 2 decades and find the man hunger depressing. Her possible personality disorders may be scaring the men away anyhow. She discards the few good ones when she's bored and is always looking for the next best thing. She seems to show borderline, narcissistic and even histrionic traits. The psychiatrists would have to figure it out. I know people who want attention are more likely to get TV shows but even there, I feel some disappointed. She doesn't treat people very well, she wants everything to revolve around her.
She hates being fat and mentions weight loss surgery more than a few times. She also gained during Covid lockdowns. Who can blame her for that though? People in general have gained a lot of weight. I went down a little bit when I got weighed 2 months ago and find out next week where the weight is. I hope it did not go up.
Ever since it was hot, I swelled like crazy, my legs feel like logs of pain even though I have done all the wrapping and Flexitouch time. Some smaller people who used to be average or thin have gained a lot of weight. There's women I see on Zoom who look like they have gained 100lbs. I feel sorry for them all because once it's on, it's almost impossible to get off. A thin person who enters fat land has a special version of hell to confront. People will not treat them the same. They lock everyone in cages what do they expect? Some people with weight and metabolic problems, are scared of life like this. I need the gym back, my health has gone downhill from the stress, lack of personal contact and more. There's so many activities that got wiped away. This is not living.
One thing bugs me about Whitney Thore is if she is so unhappy being fat why not go to a rehab or clinic? She could go to Duke or Mayo. She has the money to make it happen. It makes no sense to me. I wonder why someone with money who is so overweight and faces problems from it, won't buy some relief and support?
She could find out she has Lipedema or other issues affecting the weight. I know institutional life is probably worse during Covid but I always wondered that before. This one lady I know went to a clinic for chronic pain and told me, it would do wonders for me, but she doesn't realize for people in my socioeconomic class, those are pipe dreams. Our medical bills are huge just staying home and getting the necessary done, especially since my husband is not insured.
My mobility is getting bad lately, I wish I could afford to get more help. I may seek out a pain clinic. With food, I did take the diet to new places, with vegetarianism, and more health food. A person can only do so much. I'm kind of at an impass. I know some of my rheumatological problems are progressing, I've been seeing a kidney specialist over a urologist too. Some of the pain is getting out of control, every joint feels like it's failing even one wrist at times. My Lipedema is progressing, it got very hot and humid and I swelled up so much it was horrific. It is a scary life where just to move means some pain and more swelling. This was always an issue for me, the more I did, the more I swelled up. Now couple that with the pressure not to be "lazy", or the pressure about "gaining weight" if I don't move enough. It's enough to drive a person crazy. Other people with CFS who are thin waifs can stay in bed, someone like me fears weight gain and pushes through the fatigue and pain.
I can still walk, [not well on a walker] and was told years ago, that bed bound people would be prioritized in the few specialized obesity rehabs I did find. I understood this. Of course they would have to help those unable to function. I fear for my functionality by the way but at least can shower and cook a meal. I also do not want put into a nursing home like the one show on that one TV show years ago with the severely obese. Lipedema does progress and it's scary, the older you get, the worse it gets. The pain is affecting my life. I have to try and get more help for myself. I am not sure how I will make it happen. Most of my life has been spent trying to stay out of the nursing home.
However Whitney has the cash to go into whatever rehab or specialized clinic she would want, where she could be supervised by endocrinologists, physical therapists, have a full exercise program, foods---all salads and whole foods, and more. She could get 100 off even and be a far happier midsized person. I am always working on things, but this body is beyond me. To get a hundred off would be nice. Just getting back into the 400s, would please me immensely at this point.
I tried to go into an inpatient weight loss programs years ago [Brookhaven, etc] but due to my low economic resources, it seemed like it was nothing but nursing homes that specialized in the obese, and because I could still walk, I was told I'd be long down the list. One friend who was in rehab told me in institutions the food is a lot worse. The Brookhaven diet looked disgusting. I know normal people aren't eating teff and buckwheat noodles. I pay 10 dollars for a special large yogurt that doesn't have the endless added sugar of the majority. My diet is far more extreme even to keep would be digestive problems under control too.
To go into institutional care in my case, I would have had to shut down my entire home, life, and live on 30 dollars of spending money. Enough friends in rehabs or nursing homes, told me about the real deal. A lot of women with advanced Lipedema can end up in nursing care, so this is one reason I know so many people who have been in them. Before Covid I had somewhat of a life and did not want to lose it, fat or not. [art class, church, etc etc] although my bad lungs would keep me housebound at times.
Whitney whether she has a binge disorder, ED or Lipdema or other medical conditions could get more help. She may even need an androgen blocker to lose weight. That helped me years ago before I was forced off it.
Whitney has the CASH to get her problems dealt with and the fame to make it happen. She needs real doctors not WLS salesmen because if the inner hormonal and other problems aren't dealt with, she will never lose weight. I still think the possibilities of her having Lipedema are very high. Some people tell me they disagree, and she has eating disorders only, but if she does have Lipedema it would be better if she found out. Imagine what it would do in education about the disorder.
The show does make me sad overall, because society sees this fat woman, and makes judgments about fat people accordingly. She has a happier fuller "life" then many and still is healthy enough to be active, but sadly with the "desperate to have a man" attitudes, and the refusal to get more intense help when she is unhappy with being fat and going with the usual non-answers, sometimes the show can get depressing. Her personality issues are hard to bear, and make it hard to relate to. I am still watching it more like a car crash.
It's not exactly fat acceptance empowerment city when a show protrays a woman who cares the most about her attractiveness on the meat market of dating and aspires to be just like "thin athletes" not taking the reality and limitations of her body into consideration. Even there the usual fixes are pushed like weight loss surgery instead of deeper examinations or even honesty about would be endocrine disorders, other conditions or the real struggles of fat people. At least they are showing her going to this one fat woman's travel group, to be around other big people.
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