The Life and Times of a 500 Pound Woman.
Between my sister and I, without doubt I was the golden child. Or as I call it, the scapegoat of last resort. My mother was such a freakshow that me and my sister had no choice but to band together against her madness lest we both be washed out to sea. In later years as I started the process of going no contact my mother realized she was losing her main dancing monkey and instead of curbing her nasty demeanor she began to drive me out of her house where I had moved in to help her recover from a stroke. Once she got me gone. She went down the list of my old friends and ex wives until she found a new GC to replace me. Their betrayals knows no bounds.
Wow sounds like your mother mixed the two. In my case, we had the extreme out in front golden child who was always protected and never scapegoated. Yes I have read more of your blog, I do think your mother was a full blown sociopath definitely. I have theories too of course about my own mother's lack of fear and never showing any vulnerabilities. I am glad you two did band together. I am sorry she drove you out of the house when you were there to help care for you. That is sick and shows the evil. At least now you are not one of those GCs that stays forever in the fog directed by the NM. Yes they will find new GCs. I know if my sister wasn't around, she'd just move on to the next. I wonder who is up next for the scapegoat since I am gone. They always betray.
I left her house and came back and got my computer. In less than 4 weeks she had drawn up a new will and left all of the money she got from selling our family farm to me ex wife. An ex that broke up our marriage by hooking up with our next door neighbor. Something my mother knew about when she drafted the new will.
How recent was that? I would contest the will when she dies. Did she choose your ex-wife above other relatives on purpose just to get at you?. Maybe you will get a kind judge who will see how insane it all is. Maybe you should see if you can get her declared incompetent or make an anon call to protective services, saying your mother is not in the right mind, and has left money to an ex wife she has nothing to do with and who cheated on you years ago and that you are "worried" about her. Is she competent? If not you have some legal protections. No I am not a lawyer but that is some real funny business right there. You would have foundations laid for a later contestment. She doesn't sound at all like she is in her right mind. You do seem to have endless evidence, in your case, for a will contesting based on mental illness etc. I know you wouldn't want to be guardian but maybe push for a state one. She sounds like she has not been in her right mind for YEARS.
I'd contact an elder lawyer, someone specializing in elders, wills, getting parent with dementia declared incompetent, etc.
I've thought about it but I am not well enough to get embroiled in a prolonged legal battle. I live in Texas and it is hard to overturn a will. Yeah she did it on purpose to get at me and my sister. Crazy mean bitch!
I understand, sometimes you have to do what is best for you. There are others things in life worth more then money. Prolonged legal battles with sociopaths probably is not a good idea. I feel for you and your sister. I do wish something was done about abuse of people via wills, but sadly the evil can do much harm to folks.