My mother's emails used to drip with endless gaslighting. Here is an example if you have a hard time grasping the definition of it.
Since I became hearing impaired in 2001, I have seen this ditty written about 4-6 times in various emails, usually during arguments.
"I'm sure you could not have misheard anything I ever said since you have perfect hearing. Kind of reminds me of someone else who has a hearing problem."
One thing with malignant narcissists is they are always innocent and your reality is always wrong. They will always do whatever they can to tell you what you think, feel and know isn't reality.
I have never thought of our surrender as being the balancing entry in their accounting of who wins/ loses in the war to capture our sanity. I know there were times when I knew the only way I could stop my mother's mouth was to just let her blabber on unopposed.......Until I had enough and took a NC walk.
ReplyDeleteYes I agree, mine always says the same thing too, never deviating from the formula. We have to give up the dream that it ever will change.
Delete"You *may* be correct about that post 2001. And your excuse for all those years PRIOR to 2001? Kind of reminds me of someone else who is "mother impaired."
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Yes "mother-impaired" I like that phrase. Yes I'd like to know her excuse for the stuff prior to 2001, but she is as bad as the book 1984 rewriting history and uttering "That just didn't happen!
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