I wanted to share two quotes I found on another page.
"Triangulation is important to the psychopath against his/her victims. It’s important that he/she has a ‘following’, those who stand unquestioning and in idol worship of the psychopath/narcissist. This is very evident now with those in power, against the voiceless. The voiceless are victimized. The victimized are blamed, scapegoated and demonized. They are labeled, stereotyped and harmed. The positive thinking tyranny (positive thinking pathologized), whether intentional or unintentional, suppress those who are truly in pain and label them as ‘toxic’, ‘drama provoking’, ‘drama queens’, ‘lazy’, ‘playing the victim’, and ad nauseum, isolating them further from what appears to be disappearing support, because labels give people justification to do nothing and feel ‘okay’ about it."
I fear this is something growing in society overall beyond narcissistic systems and groups. Too many in narcissistic family systems will turn against a person that the sociopath has decided to scapegoat. I like what is said about the "positive thinking tyranny" as I wrote about the "Be Positive or Else"! messages too.
I believe that narcissists and psychopaths can turn on a person easily too, if they talk about any hardships or expose those. Those can be used against a person and thrown back in their face. As one of my commenters mentioned on another article, it is like they are a tape recorder recording everything to use later. Here too Aspies need to be careful, we process information differently and some will simply not understand. Some will see your tendency for personal ruminating as a "personal insult". They will be angry that you have not "fixed" yourself or gotten yourself up by your "bootstraps". Being an Aspie, with all the social rules to follow, if an Aspie relaxes too much, it can mean trouble. People indoctrinated into the "positive thinking" tyranny will tell a troubled Aspie, that they are failing to solve their problems quickly enough. Analytical thought in our society today is seen as a negative. Those who go "too deep" are told they are wrong. Only success is to be respected.
The "positive thinking" tyranny, will often demand your silence. The cultural matrix now is to present one's self as in control, always improving and triumphant. If you fail to do this, it can make life a bit scary.
Often narcissist families and even some others will reject those they see as failing to do all three. It can be scary sometimes writing a blog like this because I am exposing some vulnerabilities, troubles and health challenges.
In the society we are ending up with, hardships, any weakness or failure is seen as something to exploit and reject. This makes me wonder what will happen to literature and the arts as the positivity tyranny will demand silence to the true human condition. As society grows more narcissistic, the warped "positive thinking" which isn't positive at all, seeks to serve as a silencing tool for those who make a stand or even talk about what is really happening to them. Sadly the demanded narcissistic supply of the narcissists demands endless smiling compliance. Every ACON knows what this is like. There is no real joy in forced conformity. The positive thinking matrix, actually kills joy as one always has to focus on their appearance and if they said or did the right thing.
The toxic, narcissist or sociopath in a narcissist family system or other often will suppress victims of abuse telling the group you are a "complainer", or a "trouble-maker", or "negative". This is one insidious thing about scapegoating, and here they can silence your protests against your treatment quite a bit among too many who don't see through their manipulations. This works because in doing so, as you continue to stand up for yourself, it is just written off as another "complaint". I knew even with my family I had to go NC. Short of a lobotomy freezing and erasing every memory or negative emotion, why take the route of smiling compliance?