I'm going to include altered actual quotes from various abusers, gaslighters and toxic "ex-friends" I got away from.
This list will also serve me as a reminder when to run away from someone and not waste any more time. As I cleaned out the narcissistic stable, it was a LOT of people. All I know is anyone new coming into my life better not talk to me this way!
1. When people patronize you....RUN!
"It is perfectly good for you to be at the level of understanding you are at"
2. When people tell you that what you tell them is not true and gaslight you on behalf of narcissists....RUN!
"In all honesty I have not seen the negative behavior towards you that you say has happened"
3.When people tell you to move on and discount your feelings....RUN!
"So I don't hold it against them for that. Deal with it, get over it, move on"
"I choose a long time ago to not let it bother me, they are who they are."
4. When people use God to abuse or talk of deliverance or promised phony miracles....RUN
"Deliverance is for the desperate. Only those desperate enough to do what God tells them to do qualify for this miracles. If you are convinced you are doing what God requires of you then I'm not going to say anything about it. The Bible says work out your salvation with fear and trembling. Fasting and prayer is how we examine ourselves. If you knew me at all, you would know how often I do this."
5. These quotes speaks for themselves...RUN!
"I wish I could lend you my eyes to see yourself from my angle"
"I am real, you are real, just like Velveteen Rabbit"--said to me by suspected catfisher.
6. When someone calls you a bully merely for defending yourself.....Run!
"The Bully always deflects blame"
I've been in for it, as far as some people I have dealt with recently. Please God send me some nice ones! I do know some nice people who don't tell me things like the above.
One thing I do need to change is I am too quiet when people start talking trash to me. I need to stand up quicker and not let things go by while trying to be nice. ACONs can be trained too easily to sit there quiet for nonsense and trying to make nice with cruel and lying people. Also avoid people who constantly tell you they are busy, they don't have time for you, do not make it for them.