New York millennials can now rent a mom for $40 an hour
Need a Mom? Now you can rent one! This made me laugh and reminded me of the people who sold "hugging". Is there a money back guarantee if you get a narcissist or sociopathic Mom? I hope they screen them.
Is there a "Need A Dad" somewhere, too? :-) I could kinda use one of those, even as a not-so-young-anymore adult.
I've mentioned here before how my father never taught me anything and never bonded with me. Growing up I had no male role model (and my mother, being hard and aggressive, wasn't much in the way of femininity either). So no man-to-man conversations, no learning how to repair things around the house, and so on.
That's why I feel the closest thing I ever had to a father was the male therapist I saw for a couple of years in my late 20s. He helped me a lot - with things such as socializing, getting on track with my college work... even the occasional "practical" advice about things I didn't know how to go about (e.g. where and how to buy hiking gear). Above all, he was emotionally supportive, which I'd say is the single most important thing. To this day I am grateful to him.
Yet his cardinal mistake was insisting that I should maintain a relationship with my parents and talking me out of my first No Contact. I listened to him on that one, when instead I should have understood that I must never come close to them again. In retrospect, I guess he didn't understand personality disorders, or, for whatever reason, he adhered to the dogma that you cannot be healthy if you don't have a relationship with your FOO. I regret nobody telling me at that age about the kind of maniacs my so-called "family" are.
Nevertheless: In the two or so years that I saw him, my then therapist has been more of a father to me than my real one - N-cunt-whipped, spineless, assholic excuse for both a man and a human - has been in his whole stupid life.
I wish they had rent a Dad too. I am glad you had the good therapist, there are good therapists who come from decent families and don't understand what ACONs have gone through. The counseling schools need to step up on that one, there's too much damage being done. One of my best counselors, still taught me to reconcile with the family. Sigh. A lot of therapy focuses on the reconciliation of relationships, they leave the narcissists and socipaths out.
The linked-to article says: "She's careful to screen prospective clients, declining to meet one who said he wanted a 'hate session' in memory of his mother." I wonder what that means: possibly an ACON remembering the kind of person his own mother was?
I guess my previous comment could look like the same from the male side, though I didn't write it to "have a hate session" - merely to share something of my life.
Sounds like she is screening out ACONs. She isn't a therapist so can see this to a point but sadly isn't that where much of the business would come from? The people with normal mothers aren't renting one. She may get some grown up orphans.
I want one who knows how to clean and organize!
ReplyDeleteme too, LOL
DeleteIs there a "Need A Dad" somewhere, too? :-) I could kinda use one of those, even as a not-so-young-anymore adult.
ReplyDeleteI've mentioned here before how my father never taught me anything and never bonded with me. Growing up I had no male role model (and my mother, being hard and aggressive, wasn't much in the way of femininity either). So no man-to-man conversations, no learning how to repair things around the house, and so on.
That's why I feel the closest thing I ever had to a father was the male therapist I saw for a couple of years in my late 20s. He helped me a lot - with things such as socializing, getting on track with my college work... even the occasional "practical" advice about things I didn't know how to go about (e.g. where and how to buy hiking gear). Above all, he was emotionally supportive, which I'd say is the single most important thing. To this day I am grateful to him.
Yet his cardinal mistake was insisting that I should maintain a relationship with my parents and talking me out of my first No Contact. I listened to him on that one, when instead I should have understood that I must never come close to them again. In retrospect, I guess he didn't understand personality disorders, or, for whatever reason, he adhered to the dogma that you cannot be healthy if you don't have a relationship with your FOO. I regret nobody telling me at that age about the kind of maniacs my so-called "family" are.
Nevertheless: In the two or so years that I saw him, my then therapist has been more of a father to me than my real one - N-cunt-whipped, spineless, assholic excuse for both a man and a human - has been in his whole stupid life.
I wish they had rent a Dad too. I am glad you had the good therapist, there are good therapists who come from decent families and don't understand what ACONs have gone through. The counseling schools need to step up on that one, there's too much damage being done. One of my best counselors, still taught me to reconcile with the family. Sigh. A lot of therapy focuses on the reconciliation of relationships, they leave the narcissists and socipaths out.
DeleteThe linked-to article says: "She's careful to screen prospective clients, declining to meet one who said he wanted a 'hate session' in memory of his mother." I wonder what that means: possibly an ACON remembering the kind of person his own mother was?
ReplyDeleteI guess my previous comment could look like the same from the male side, though I didn't write it to "have a hate session" - merely to share something of my life.
Sounds like she is screening out ACONs. She isn't a therapist so can see this to a point but sadly isn't that where much of the business would come from? The people with normal mothers aren't renting one. She may get some grown up orphans.
DeleteIt's really too bad that there aren't older women around who will be a mom to a younger woman for free!
ReplyDeleteI was dirt poor in my late teens and early 20s. I would not have been able to afford this mom.
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