Friday, January 2, 2015
Narcissistic Parent As You Mature
This video is very valid. I noticed my own abuse quadrupled when I hit my teens. She was out to destroy me at every measure. I was talking to an old high school class mate on Facebook, I had not seen in 25 years but we were close acquaintances. She said to me, "I remember how withdrawn you were in high school". I told her, how abused I was and it was true. Why didn't any teachers or school administrators help me? It was obvious my classmates were noticing something was very wrong back then. What gets me is as some share their memories, is how happy they are compared to my own. They are allowed to see friends, to celebrate being young to date and more. Me, none of the above. While my classmates were seeing friends and having some of the happiest times of their lives, I lived under the oppressive hand of the narcissists. I didn't realize how far beyond the pale things were for me at that time not knowing what normal was. One thing, many young people in their high teens and early 20s, are betrayed by narcs, who denote even one youthful setback as an excuse to abuse, destroy and crush. The years after high school or college graduation can be very delicate ones in determining the future of an individual and if a narcissist is in the mix, they can steer a young person who needs support, confidence and love to a pathway of destruction. This happened to me. I know I think of the time I was student teaching and how they seemed hell-bent on destroying me at any cost, and how this boded for my future. I hope God has a hot place in hell assigned for both of them based on that one alone. I know now my mother wanted me to fail and has enjoyed it, her entire life.