The Seven Types of Negative Parental Mirrors
"The "I Don't Matter/I am Invisible" Mirror by the Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic Parent My mother was the sun. Everything revolved around her happiness, her comfort, her wants and needs. If I wasn't meeting her needs, she didn't want me around. She would become enraged over minor infractions. I was sent to "sulk" in my room if I "didn't get my way" or because she couldn't look at me or be around me because whatever mistake I made was so awful. Sibling rivalry -- I was selfish and jealous of my younger sisters. If I did something mean, I was mean. If I wanted something for myself, I was selfish. If I failed to show thankfulness, I was ungrateful and spoiled.
She badmouthed people, cut them out of her life for months, sometimes years, then called them up when she started her next home business venture. She would rant and rave about her coworkers and friends about things they said or did and why they said or did them; she knew what they were thinking, what motives they had, and how it all came back to making her feel bad."
This is a great article. Several of those mirrors would apply in my personal experience.