Saturday, August 15, 2015
Seeking Revenge on a Narcissist is Madness
In my case, I know my narcissists are capable of anything. He is right that seeking revenge on a narcissist is total madness. Narcissists live for the battle and are used to winning. They will lie, cheat and steal and do anything to win, and don't play by the same rules. They will manipulate. This is how ACONs can find themselves involuntarily committed to mental hospitals or put in jail or financially destroyed or otherwise destroyed.
Trying to get revenge on a narcissist is playing with fire. It's dancing with the devil and expecting good results when all you will get is burned. God will have to get my justice for me. I know it's hard on this earth to have someone ruin you and in many cases take the whole family away and then just walk away. I know mine probably wants revenge for this blog and yes that does scare me but I'm not going to live my life shaking in my boots. I just want a peaceful happy life. Even if I am struggling with finding peace and happiness it is what I desire. I pray I am left in peace. Even with my struggles, I have more good days now in dealing with my NC decision then I did last year even if I am facing some struggles. There is no doubt I made the right choice even if dealing with the outcome has been difficult.
Playing get back at a narcissist is insanity. There will be no end to the game. Even if a victim "wins" one battle, the narcissists will come back to win the war. We know they can ensure many flying monkeys to join in on the game too to help them out.
There are many infiltrators into the narcissist sub-culture. They don't like people seeking validation and empathy between themselves. I have written I believe the powers that be feel threatened by those who honestly expose narcissists and sociopaths. This is why you are seeing narcissistic FRIENDLY websites. The new mode is to either lie to ACONs giving them bad information, on how narcissists and sociopaths can be cured or for them to seek revenge, or to make excuses for narcissists. Let's be frank, this narcissistic stuff is about a spiritual war, this is a war between good and evil, and plenty of the wicked, want to steer ACONs wrong.
Fellow ACONs have kept me alive. We give each other strength and hope. I had close friends who faced abuse decades ago even before we could give a name to the problem. We must remain careful of bad advice and those wanting to deceive.