Monday, June 29, 2015
You're Not Getting Happy Fast Enough!
It's weird how people will judge others on their happiness or lack thereof. You're a "Debbie Downer" if you even talk about one problem. One thing I have noticed is that healthy women with middle class incomes, have no problem judging severely disabled people or others as not being "happy" enough! Going deaf? So sick you are just managing to stay out of the nursing home? Be careful, a narc may be measuring your smiles!
"Get happy! or get out is their mantra. One thing I believe is the outcome of social media, is everyone comparing their lives in the extreme. Are you happy? Are you living fully? There isn't a person on the planet who wants to be unhappy, so faulting people for being unhappy I believe is a very narcissistic quality. It is the domain of the spoiled. American society is now run like a cult, everyone in their white tunics is making sure that everyone has a smile on their face. All dissenters are "bad".
Question for these types: How is your lack of compassion helping anyone's would be lack of happiness?
Happiness lies in escaping the measure up games.
I believe this is one way narcissists can put someone on edge. Narcissists want "happy", unquestioning supply. I don't give a damn if I am a melancholic, or not happy enough to "please you". I enjoyed some movies and had some fun this week. Often I have noticed with age, it is the most unhappy and hiding it people who are always going on about how someone else isn't happy enough. I know I laugh and smile more then some of these "be happy" or else merchants. It's none of their business really. Happiness is not supposed to be a contest.
One line in the sand for every ACON should draw is, "Don't tell me how to feel!"
PS: One blog, that will remain unnamed, is now defending psychopaths. The mind boggles.