Tuesday, December 4, 2018

The Narcissist's Family Cult


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  1. This is such a painful video. How the heck do you know so much about my family of origin? My mother's manipulations were so practiced to the point where she would claim she was having heart palpitations in her 50's. She is not happy unless she can totally control all of us siblings and their spouses. She can't control me so she hates me and has been extremely destructive. I thought the problem was alcoholism but I see now it's narcissism and extreme mental illness. I'm not sure if my mother is a psychopath or is on some spectrum of schizophrenia. What hurt me very much was not being allowed to have friends or have family members be supportive of me in any way.
    A younger sister was allowed to have friends over the house, but not me. My friends were all called bums. My sister's friend said about my mother, she puts on a good act. But said in a way that she respected her. I am appalled that no one in my family or any of the siblings ever took her to task for the extreme emotional, psychological and physical abuse.

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    1. Yeah this video spoke to me too. My mother ran my family like a cult, with her as the head feared honcho. Mine claimed to be having heart attacks in her 50s, I realized only later that someone having a heart attack would not be working through the work day. Would they live into their 70s able to run around every second? I know I got bamboozled now somehow. Yeah so yours played that game too, it seems. The alcoholism could just be one piece of the puzzle, and I believe mine is a sociopath so yes that's possible too. Yeah they set things up so we don't have supportive friends or family, mine turned everyone against me she ever met except for very few. I wrote about how my mother befriended all my sister's friends [see post "My Second Daughter"] and hated all my friends even the millionaire friend that defended her later and I unfriended. Yeah these people just aren't taken to task. Mine gets all the respect, even if it is rooted in fear, it's too bad you have faced these things too.

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  2. or how about this one?
    We did the best we could.

    I am here to tell you that they did not. They were cruel and inhuman on purpose.

    I learned 2 years ago that an aunt and uncle were in AA. I never understood why the adults never got help for the children who were being horribly abused.

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    1. Yeah the betrayal of the bystanders,

      Yeah I have heard the "They did the best they could" line or "We gave you everything and still you asked for more". Narcs enjoy their power games and abuse, they weren't doing the best at all, they know what they were doing.

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