Why Did She Apologize to Her Serial Killer Dad?

I was reading a People magazine, left in free magazines, I don't buy that kind of thing myself, and well the BTK Killer's daughter was portrayed. She's written a book about her life with him. He played a double Jekyll and Hyde so she didn't grow up being beaten and abused, though she saw his anger on rare occasion. What made me sick is how false forgiveness is always promoted in our society. Here's a guy who murdered people just for kicks, even an entire family except for two of their kids with the Oteros, and this is what the daughter wrote about him in the Feb 4th 2019 People magazine.

"When I got home, I burst into our office telling Darian [her husband] I'd forgiven my father. I then sat down and wrote him for the first time in five years.


I had come to terms with what happened with you and laid to rest. I am never going to understand it, but I forgive you. I'm sorry and I miss you.


There have massive struggles since forgiving my dad. Yet on the days when I'm not wrestling with hard, terrible truths. I will tell you I love my dad--the one I mainly knew. On the good days--I'm near as I can to being healed."


His admission to her, "I have serious problems" was one written about in the article.

Her family was Christian. [Lutheran church]

I read that and thought "why are you apologizing to him?"

No one would want to be her, and find out this horror.  She's gone through a lot. Sadly though she's been indoctrinated obviously via "her faith" mentioned in the article, into false forgiveness.

There's a certain thing in some modes of Christianity, where the abusers and totally evil are empowered. I was always told to "forgive" but no one ever tried to tell my mother to treat me better. Since my deconversion, I've had thoughts about how "turn the other cheek" and "forgive 70 times 70" has impacted society in negative ways to the point that a daughter of a serial killer is telling her murdering sociopathic father, "I'm sorry". She has contact with him still as I could tell in the article.

Why do so many Christian circles push forward this false forgiveness and empowerment even of the most wicked? This article appeared in a magazine that millions of Americans read. Our heart strings are pulled for the "poor" serial killer instead of his victims he left bloodied and dead on the floor, many I am sure begged for their lives.

Victims in some places in Christianity are told not to have any emotions, to suck it up. Let's look at the endless sex abuse cases, in Catholicism, the IFB and now being exposed in the SBC. Everyone will tell the sexually and other wise abused, they need to "forgive". They are chided in church after church for even daring to talk about what happened to them. Many of us while in Christian church including me in the last IFB, heard sermons that even called us wicked for departing from abusive families. In this recent deconversion article, I wrote about how evil is enabled in many religious circles.

Why do the abusers have most of the religious leadership kowtow to them? There's some deep reasons that spiritually I could no longer tolerate my fundamentalist Christian beliefs of the past. I got tired of being told to say "I am sorry" to the evil. I was in that place once, like her, saying "I am sorry" to my mother. In her case, what about being sorry for his victims? There are so many delusions now promoted in false religions and new age philosophies, that dumb people down about evil, and preach the message to be compliant in the face of evil.

It made me sad reading about that woman apologizing to her serial killer sociopathic father. It also says something about our religions and our society. The evil are empowered on multiple levels in this society. Those who enact the worse crimes who don't have a sorry bone in their bodies, are excused and empowered while their victims or families of their victims are told to "forgive".  I understand moving forward from abusers, but why are are their victims told over and over to suppress all emotions, to "forgive" and to give them place after place? This is especially strong in some religious circles. Hmm maybe there's a reason why sex abuse in multiple Christian denominations and churches has become a problem. The messages of submission to the evil and that the emotions of the abused are more of a problem then the evildoers themselves never end.

I always notice how the anger of abused victims is condemned far worse. We now see forgiveness even for a heartless serial killer who has one of the blackest souls on the planet promoted in a national magazine. It made me want to throw up.