My Big Fat Fabulous Life

TLC is doing a new show called "My Big Fat Fabulous Life". Whitney the star shares how she has PCOS, and definitely it has take a toll on her. She is about to dance and be active and hopefully that will help her. I plan to check the show out when it premieres.

Not a Burden

Love this sign. This is a helpful one for those who are chronically ill and have those struggles like lipedema and also for people facing other struggles too.

Write a Song to Cheer Yourself Up

When we get bummed out, sometimes I and my husband will write songs to cheer ourselves up. I would tell you some of the titles, but my husband has put a few of these online and people can figure out my identity via them even though they are just personal songs and never been sold but he has performed them at open mics and other places. He does give me credit whenever I have written a song or co-written one. This can be a great stress release. It came out as an outgrowth of our involvement in poetry. Some of the songs are like folks songs, but using lyrics about real life with humor and satire attached. We wrote a new song today, he put in some quips about our dreaded yuppies, I said put in a line about narcissists! He added one. LOL

Hurt-Johnny Cash

Johnny Cash had a lot of regrets. Sadly I share the same thoughts in my late middle age. They always saying aging with regret is the worse thing that can happen to people.

Why is my Life so Rotten?

Dear God, Tell Me Why It Went So Bad.

Sometimes even a Christian wonders why so much is going wrong. I don't buy into the Christianity that tells me if I have enough faith the piles of money will show up like Joel Osteen but sometimes I am serious wondering why the suffering quotient is going up so high. My husband bless his soul too, has been shaking his head regarding our collective misery. I have to pray about what is becoming of me and seek the spiritual answers too.

Sick And More Sick With No End

Why was I on antibiotics for three weeks, [swollen saliva glands] and then got a leg infection this week? That scares me. Maybe the doctor's aren't calling me back because they are stumped too.  All Aspies hate making phone calls, I can cry from the stress of trying to get something I need from neurotypicals. How pushy should I be? Should I yell at them yet? Will I offend them and ruin the medical relationship? Did I say the wrong thing? I may tell my doctor who knows I am an Aspie, that I can't take it anymore and want extensive refills on my antibiotics.

If anything the antibiotics should have prevented a leg infection. I did not have any leg infections for a year and a half. I felt free and like I had hope, only now to realize that has now passed like a fart in the wind.  I did my Flexitouch every day, except 1 day when I had the flu for 7 months. I wrapped without fail. Why am I being punished for something I did not do? I worked hard to keep my legs from being infected. I don't want to go back to the leg infections slamming me, and being afraid everyday. When they hit it is like the worse flu on earth and 4 days ago, I got a revisit to flu land with a high fever and pain. Will they even believe me? Or will they think I was not compliant when I was to the max?

Typhoid Mary ruined what little good in my life there was. I am sure by now she is on another tens of thousands of dollar cruise, enjoying her life. She would cry if she had my life and was forced to give up recreational shopping and traveling.  I am sure as I almost puked my guts out this morning from stomach acid run amuck and handed two-thirds of my income over to keep a roof over my head--my husband pays the other bills and put the check in the manager's slot yesterday, that Mommy Dearest is busy shopping from her second home in a warm state and going out to eat and enjoying her life.  Fun for them, and constant misery for me. Why?

Why did I win the CRAPPY LIFE AWARD? The only people suffering more then me are in prison or the street. I even watched Intervention the other day thinking, look at those thin bodies, and their families still love THEM with a feeling of jealousy. I know people aren't supposed to feel sorry for themselves. I have to smile and act with it, so I don't scare people away in the regular world and since this is my blog why not be honest. I know nice people around here who have helped me, and don't want to stress them out more. How did my life become such a mess? Every one I know who hit my age, got at least one break. Where's mine?

I'm supposed to start a new lung medication today but afraid wondering what else will go wrong?

Nothing but Endless Disappointment

I have gotten to a place where I expect disappointment. That is not good. I have prayed to God incessantly about what to do about my rotten life and have hit a brick wall.  I am sad and upset about many many things.

Self-help and endless advice books do not provide the cash or decent body I need to be happy.  Every time I relax and get happy inspite of these things and it has happened on occasion, it's like the rug is pulled out from underneath my feet. There is a void in too many places I can't seem to fill. There are things I want to do that keep getting thwarted. My life is one where I am too tired to do everything and crying in frustration about all my undone tasks and people I have failed. The literal physical exhaustion is wearing me down, and I fear a totally bed-ridden life awaiting.

I don't want to be Aunt Scapegoat with her head hung down, and the black cloud growing and sitting alone one day staring at a wall totally broken. I am scared.  I do not want to be her. I fear spiritual destruction at the hands of my Job-like existence.

 What happens to someone who is an outcast mentally whose body is an enemy from hell? Now I understand why people do drugs and drink themselves into oblivion. I don't recommend this of course but this world sometimes has so much sadness on the menu.

 For seasoned ACONS who I know read my blog, please tell me if this can be the stresses of no contact. A lot of people disappointed me within the FOO beyond measure. Why can't my brain stop ruminating about it? Am I buckling under the pressures of my year and half into no contact, having to walk away from the majority of my family and severe disabilities and financial problems combined? What if I am tired of having to be strong?

I Need Something To Look Forward To.

I need something to look forward to. Why can't I have ONE THING to LOOK FORWARD TO? I have hope in heaven but I need SOME HOPE in this life.  I do not think it is wrong to pray to God for some hope in my earthly life too or even just a time of respite. If I was a normal healthy person, I would hit the road right now seriously, go somewhere warm, go find some FUN.  Hey I could do this now but it would mean not paying the rent and flirting with homelessness. There must be some reason I keep telling my husband as a joke, or maybe it's not a joke, "Lets run away!"

All 12 step programs warn about the geographical cure not working but sometimes you just feel trapped. You want an escape from the grind. Some people with jobs may say "Every day is a vacation for you! Shut yer trap!" but everyone needs time away.

Positive Thinkers Prattle On

The positive thinkers would tell me, "you're not thinking positive enough", this is why nothing but bad things happen to you. In other words, the whole you are creating your own reality. But the inverse of that is they are just like my narcissists who told me everything bad happening is my fault. Both things are wrong.

 I'm sick of thinking everything is my fault. I am sick of being told if I do this, that and this, that the results will ensue. I spent three hours a day on my stupid legs for the last year and half and my bad leg still betrayed me. Why don't I get good results? I am sick of waiting for the hammer to fall, for the car to break down and the streets awaiting. I need a break.

If you were my life coach, what would you tell me?


Update: 2019: Dump the religion with it's endless false promises and the positive thinkers who do nothing but lie.

Narcissistic Parent As You Mature

This video is very valid. I noticed my own abuse quadrupled when I hit my teens. She was out to destroy me at every measure. I was talking to an old high school class mate on Facebook, I had not seen in 25 years but we were close acquaintances. She said to me, "I remember how withdrawn you were in high school". I told her, how abused I was and it was true. Why didn't any teachers or school administrators help me? It was obvious my classmates were noticing something was very wrong back then. What gets me is as some share their memories, is how happy they are compared to my own. They are allowed to see friends, to celebrate being young to date and more. Me, none of the above. While my classmates were seeing friends and having some of the happiest times of their lives, I lived under the oppressive hand of the narcissists. I didn't realize how far beyond the pale things were for me at that time not knowing what normal was. One thing, many young people in their high teens and early 20s, are betrayed by narcs, who denote even one youthful setback as an excuse to abuse, destroy and crush. The years after high school or college graduation can be very delicate ones in determining the future of an individual and if a narcissist is in the mix, they can steer a young person who needs support, confidence and love to a pathway of destruction. This happened to me. I know I think of the time I was student teaching and how they seemed hell-bent on destroying me at any cost, and how this boded for my future. I hope God has a hot place in hell assigned for both of them based on that one alone. I know now my mother wanted me to fail and has enjoyed it, her entire life.

What If Obesity Is Nobody’s Fault?

Meet the mice that are changing the obesity conversation.

 

"How exactly obesity occurs without excess calorie intake or decreased output remains unclear. Mrap2 is expressed primarily in the brain, in a region that regulates metabolism, the process by which an organism converts food into energy for life-sustaining processes. Perhaps, says Majzoub, the obese mice metabolize calories differently, turning the same calories into fat that normal mice convert into building proteins, or use in other internal tasks. Mice, like humans, do not consciously control their metabolism.
A similar mechanism could be tied up with some instances of human obesity. The study also found that mutations in the human version of MRAP2, though rare, link to severe early-onset obesity in people. Majzoub predicts that other, yet to be found mutations in MRAP2 and additional genes linked to human obesity might help explain why some people cannot seem to maintain an average weight no matter their food intake."