"Fat Assed Prepper Survival Tips For Coronavirus Quarantine"
From Fat Lib online, a California group standing up for fat rights and disabled fat people. Some of the advice is very good. Many super-fat or other fat people do fear being triaged during this crisis.
There's a saying that in the WWII concentration camps, the fat got skinny and the skinny died. People in extremis, whether in a classic camp like that, lost in the wilderness, or just very ill, will lose about a lb a day.
ReplyDeleteInteresting saying....yeah I think fatness that is not too severe will save your life in famine. Those of us who are severely overweight would have that window where chronic health problems could affect us, co-morbs or things like Lipedema. I need to ask doctor for emergency antibiotics if my leg goes off, not interested in dying of an otherwise treatable leg infection. I asked and he refused, was kind of shocked, he seems to think the system will remain intact, I don't. If I see him this month, I am going to re-ask and say look this is my life, and society is collapsing, in the very near future.
DeleteI have fish antibotics in here a prepper friend sent me and doxycycline, but the doxycycline can expire and be come dangerous from chemical changes. My metabolism is such it shuts down when there's little food, this was proven during my severe poverty days. I am scared of my psuedo Cushings taking things to hell, anxiety worsens the cortisol in me by 10-fold. So that's interesting the fat get skinny and the skinny died. In my case lack of thyroid pills will be the cincher. I have saved every pill I have ever gotten, thank goodness for that. Never trusted those "throw away your medication". Life not being able to access my lung medicine is going to be very scary. I have some old Advair inhalers in here, but it's not going to be the same. I only have very little thyroid meds and extras left from old dosage changes, it is very old. Yeah I think about this stuff. I have gone down the list considering what could take me out the fastest once medical supply chains collapse.
Hi Peeps, I know this is OT. but.. I moved out on Monday. The friend I was renting from turned real bad. Total narcissist. He did very strange and awful things, the worst mocking me when I was in physical pain making noise , repeating my sighs to be an asshole in an attempt to start a fight. Wouldn't say hello or goodbye to me, wouldn't have normal conversations. He hid the pots and pans because supposedly he was allergic to the food I cooked. WTF? I cooked when he wasn't there but it was so anxiety provoking I couldn't enjoy my meals. Friends said he has a mental illness. No concern that it was a National Emergency, pandemic. He was still going to work and working his side gig. I learned far too much about him, what an awful person. The worst was the emotional abuse and when I confronted him, he mocked me,just like my mother did. What is it about people if they know you've been abused, they have no problem being cruel?
ReplyDeleteOne thing I noticed about him, is he is very very self involved. I knew all about his family, his siblings and his extended family, his grandparents. Not once did he ask me about my family. When I told him some things, I think he saw it that meant I am less than him. The past three months have been very difficult. It's going to take some time to heal from this.
MY hope is to never have contact with him again... it's been exhausting. Just thought I'd let you know I escaped. Alive. Hope you are holding up. Let's hope this thing passes before the end of May.
Thrown Away Daughter, I am glad you escaped. It's horrible this friend turned out to be such a monster. Him complaining about your meals is more of that typical narc bullcrap. Just to make trouble. If other friends warn you about something, I had to learn myself to listen to such warnings. I am sure it was all about him, and you knew his entire life history and every relative while he had no interest in what you had to say. It's terrible he made fun of you when you were sick but they will do that. One thing I learned the hard way was to keep it secret that I am abused. I tell people I have no family or they are deceased when pressed and this vastly improved my life. My early years of no contact were a hell factory, I thought it was SAFE to tell friends, oh hell no it was not. I tell no one. I even had a friend of 4 years, who moved away recently who never learned about my family or the history there, I had to divide life into before and after and excise those people's very existence from my life. I will still discuss things here, but in real life, I do not tell anyone I ever was abused. I may hint at things or if someone really wants to check out every Facebook group I belong to, they can put some puzzle pieces together, but otherwise NOPE. Even admitting mere estrangement from a family can bring out the predators. I had to get rid of so many narc people, it wasn't funny. Yeah make sure you dump this one for good and never talk to him again. Everything is oneupmanship with these people. I am afraid myself to ever "live" with anyone [outside a marriage partner or mate] too many abuses when someone takes in someone who is homeless. At least being on disability, I could get a disability apt even if that means living in the middle of BFE, it would be better then being in one of those scenarios, I hope you have found a new safe place to live. This time is very difficult and I hope we get some normal back.
DeleteThanks Peep- whew. I've known him for 16 years. He's been supportive and kind to me over the years - a good friend , yes after the horrible experience in October he said, come right over. Things went bad at the end of January he physically threatened and menaced me. I was paying him rent. Paying for all the household supplies and cleaning the place. I guess I felt safe with him but his responses to some of the stories about my family should have set off the alarms. You are right about not disclosing abuse histories to people. I just realized that's one of the lessons from this experience. It's open season when they find out my abuse history. Well if her family hates her and won't back her up.... she must be a real piece of garbage that I can step all over. Is this what people like him think? Oh, she's just a "homeless woman"- she's lower than dirt. One guy wrote on facebook that homeless woman are treated worse than men because the people who run homeless shelters hate women. wow. What I found was the absolute lack of compassion and understanding from acquaintances - are they friends? That was so painful that I don't want contact with them either. What is BFE? What's a disability apartment? Here in NYC housing is sewed up pretty tight. Any so called affordable housing and things like the projects are already given out to special interest groups, who ever is not an American usually gets that because of their organizations. So called assisted living in NYC and the boroughs are like living in a jail. I've felt so very alone going through this nonsense. I was scared all the time that he would take the keys out of my purse that I hid them in a side pocket in my winter coat in the closet. On top of that, the fear about being found cooking it was all too much.
DeleteWow that's sad for a friend of that long duration to turn out bad but then I had the two friendships that were 30 years in duration I had to end. Living with friends, I think turns out really bad for disabled people. I have heard too many horror stories, where a disabled person moves in, and their check is used to pay all the bills and the abuse begins and nothing is ever good enough.
DeleteI had so many people abuse me over the family history, that I learned to keep my mouth shut. It improved life vastly. You have to erase them out and even give yourself another past if you can. I do tell people who press me, they are deceased. In some ways they really are to me, the relationships are dead and I had to go through a period of grief except in this case there weren't the positive memories that go with that.
My early years of no contact was open season, had so many betrayals, I lost count. Yes people do think if an entire family rejects you, there must be something WRONG with them. So yeah if they see you as your family hating you, you are easy prey to the narcs of the world.
Homeless people are treated like trash too, add both up and being poor which is obvious with homelessness, then its a mess.
I have heard so many horror stories of people in homeless shelters, I believe it.
I stopped talking about it. Acquaintances will shrink away. Better just never to do it. maybe a future mate or ultra close or fellow ACON friend, but that's about it.
BFE, slang term, it may be dated given my age, means "butt fuck eygpt" in the middle of nowhere.
In my state there are buildings for disabled and elderly people, you have to be on waiting lists for them. The waiting lists where I live in a more rural area are 1 year or so. I stayed in private but this is an option for disabled people to stay off the street. Probably to get an apartment like that, they are in other states too, you would have to move to a medium sized town or small town not joined up to a huge metro area. Of course given my Chicago experience I think big cities eat people alive. You are right about immigrants getting more help, but they have each other for support and special groups. Yeah assisted living in NYC would probably be hellish. Nursing homes and group homes, I would fear those even here. Yeah going through poverty and illness alone has to be rough. I am glad you hid your keys so he could not find it, that was smart.
What is BFE? What's a disability apartment? Here in NYC housing is sewed up pretty tight. Any so called affordable housing and things like the projects are already given out to special interest groups, who ever is not an American usually gets that because of their organizations. So called assisted living in NYC and the boroughs are like living in a jail. I've felt so very alone going through this nonsense. I was scared all the time that he would take the keys out of my purse that I hid them in a side pocket in my winter coat in the closet. On top of that, the fear about being found cooking it was all too much. I hope things will get better for you soon.
I am glad you escaped! It's very late as I am thinking I haven't responded to your comment yet but will write more tomorrow.
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